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writes:Hey all would just like an outside view on a situation.I met this guy 2 weeks ago (total stranger) and we got on very well and have met up nearly everyday since. He is always trying to kiss/cuddle and sends sweet texts about how he misses me etc. I really like him and he's the first guy ive actually liked since i split with my ex (over 1yr ago)We have slept together a few times, and last night i said to him 'where do i stand with you as in FWB/casual etc'. He said no i dont wana be FWB i want to keep it how we are for a while so we can get to know each other more as he doesnt wana rush anything.Now that doesnt sound too bad but what im wondering is that if we keep things the way they are FWB/casual then do you people thing he would commit more over time or his he using them words to get the benefits of a relationship without actually having one?Since he said that ive not been sure what to do cause although i like the current situation i know i want more from him at a later time. Should i carry on as normal or maybe see him less type thing. Any advice would be much appriciated xx
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (13 June 2008):
 It's hard to tell, but I think LazyGuy might be right here. Why not take the 'benefits' out of your relationship and just stick with being 'friends' for now? If he's not happy with that, then you'll have your answer. If he is fine with it, then you can continue to get to know each other better. Seems to be moving awfully fast to me, if you've only known him 2 weeks and you've already been sexually intimate.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (13 June 2008):
 Going to have to go against the others, I don't think he is interested in anything more then sex.
His line is just to string it out as long as possible. It is just a gut feeling from what you posted. Male instinct if you like.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): I think you should hang in there, give it some time and go with the flow.
Do not become clingy or pressure him, then he might "run".
See what develops over the next few weeks;
Dont rush!If after a few weeks there is not more commitment, talk to him, tell him what you want, if he cannot meet your needs, move on!
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (13 June 2008):
 Hi Hunny
This new guy of yours sweetpea likes you and he doesnt want FWB relationship with you he wants more he just wants to get to no you a little take things slow and see how things go because I feel he would like to be with you at some point..He is just being carefull and keeping things cool so to speak, If you like him then just be happy that he wants you...From what you have said this guy likes you alot hunny GOODLUCK WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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