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writes:I'm really concerned. My boyfriend and I have been together for a while, and if I could properly define love, this would be it. We're really great together. It's just, lately something's been bothering me. He's concerned about the odds of us staying together. He's my first love, and my first real boyfriend, and he's worried that i'll just leave him. I calmed him down by telling him that he's the only one for me currently, and that I really can't speak for the future. There's just something in me that can't help but think he's right. I love him with all my heart, but I know it's not going to last. I don't know if this is just my pessimistic side coming through, or if it's really bothering me. He's the best guy I know, and i definitely don't want to break his heart. He's expressed how much he's loved me, and i'm just worried that the feelings I return aren't as serious. I do love him, and I don't want to leave him...but I don't know what to do. I'm sure I should just wait until the time comes to decide, but i'm so concerned that thoughts on the future will destroy the present. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, adorkable_gg +, writes (8 November 2007):
adorkable_gg is verified as being by the original poster of the question I've read the article, and i can assure you that he is definitely not a loser. It's not that i'm having second thoughts, it's just i don't want him to think our relationship is more serious than it is. I love him, this I know...and his concerns have gone away. It's just now starting to really hit me, and i'm so lost.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2007): takeit as it comes. he sounds a little bit crazy though. it also sounds like you might be having some second thoughts. is he a loser?
google "warning signs dating a loser" and read the article. it is very helpful to determine if this is the case. If yes, BAIL OUT! the sooner the better. the longer you let it go on, the more difficult it will become. you should really ask yourself: Does he live up to your expectations or do you just feel like you are lucky because he says he loves you so much?
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