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writes:My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years, and I have a subject that I don't know how to approach. My best friend recently joked that he wouldn't mind "a hand" from my girlfriend. She passed it off with a laugh, but later that day she asked me what my thoughts were on the idea of her giving us both hand at the same time. She has never done anything like that before, and neither have I. She is not a whore by any means, and she believes that this will be a fun experiment. At first I told her that I wouldn't consider it, but now after a couple of months I am wondering. I think about it, and it turns me on a little bit. Has anyone else had a similar situation, and if so, how did it turn out? Thanks for reading, I look forward to responses.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2010): I think you probably know the answer yourself. You know how you feel about your girlfriend, and how you might handle this. I agree with the other comments that the long term effects of things like this can be hard work.
I am in a relationship where i adore my girlfriend, and see her as a sexual queen that desrves the very best of everything. I have positvely encouraged her to have sex with other men, which she has done numerous times. We both enjoy this part of our relationship, however, there are plenty of times when we have to work extra hard because of it. She sometimes feels I am palming her off and that I am not interested, or i can't be bothered. Sometimes i worry that she is too into one of her regulars, sometimes she feels she's performing or doing it for my benefit etc etc.
We have a good relationship but this element causes problems. If your relationship is strong, and you accept the work it takes, playing with friends can be an amazing addition to your sex life, if you're in any doubt, don't do it.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (20 August 2010):
 dirtball probably has it right. It's not the best idea in the world when the girl is actually your girlfriend (as opposed to a friend who happens to be a girl). Much as you will enjoy it (and she surely will, even if you don't - the feeling of two erect tools in each hand is a wonderful one), it will affect your relationship negatively. If she's only a casual friend it would be a different matter.
Tread with caution.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2010): Listen to Mr. Adventurer below, do not open the can of worms because you'll never be able to close it.
But hey, it's your life and I don't give a damn if you ruin it. Do whatever your lack of wisdom suggests you for all I care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2010): I've never had a similiar situation. There's only 1 penis in my fantasies... mine.
But I'd say, if all 3 of you are cool with it, go for it. Just don't be suprised if the week after you're in the middle of an all out, porn quality three-way.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (19 August 2010):
 While it's a little more intense, I had a MMF threesome with my best friend and my girlfriend at the time. It was a lot of fun, and one of the most erotic things I've ever done. That being said I will never do it again if I'm in a committed relationship. A threesome can be fun in a casual thing, but if you have intense feelings for the person involved, I'd avoid it.
I suggested it. We were at my friends house and slipped into the other room to get freaky. She was a bit of an exhibitionist and we had discussed having a threesome in the past. We had sex in front of people plenty of times so it wasn't that much of a stretch. I asked her if we should ask my friend to join. I've been friends with him since we were little kids. He's basically my brother. Anyway, she agreed and we offered and he was a little surprised but decided to do it. It was a lot of fun. Afterword we went about our business as usual. The thing was, as time progressed, I didn't see her the same way. I didn't value her anymore like I had in the past. Eventually I ended it with her because I wanted to move on. It wasn't fair to her, but sometimes you don't know how you'll react to something until you've gone through it. You see, her rampant sexuality was something I embraced and loved about our relationship. I too have a very high sex drive and it was nice to be with someone who shared that. After that experience though I viewed it negatively. That polar shift happened all in about a month's time.
Since then I've had one more chance at a threesome. It was with the same friend and his GF at the time. I knew he was going to ask her to marry him, and remembering how our last one effected me, I refused. I still think it was the right decision, even though their relationship didn't go where he had hoped it would.
I hope these stories help you in your decision. If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't open this door. Even if it is "just a hand job," it is likely to open the door to some ugly thoughts. "Is my friend wanting it again? Does she want him again? Does she like his cock better? Does my friend really want more from her?" The list goes on.
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