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writes: I have posted here before asking questions and have come closer to finding 'answers' to a multitude of thoughts. These are all different questions that came from the same source, that lead to different layers of my psyche.Lately, I have found myself running on a hamster wheel (responsibilities) chasing after my desires. I recognize that if one choice is picked, then another choice is closed up, which also means that a 'different' result will come to view. I tried giving myself advice from different perspectives, but ultimately, find that I am in a bind, unable to 'sacrifice' more or less than what I have and am capable of. Therefore, I am 'stuck' here in this state of 'limbo'. To cut these long-winded thoughts down, that readers may be able to understand better, I find that I am at a point in my life where within the limitations of my psyche, I cannot receive the sort of happiness I desire.Eg: a simple intimate relationship, simple easy going friendships, financial security, a future where I have my own life that my parents can already be on their own.I gave myself a focusing point, like self-encouragement, self-support, telling myself that I can gain my love for other things like my existing good friendships, my love for my parents for what I can do for them and am willing to do for them, to seek out the occasional intimacy from a willing female friend, to express further love for my cousin who is like my little brother, to find focus in myself and my relationship to the world and the universe. Yet, I am still very human with a human touch, a human heart. However, even now, I deny myself the opportunity to reveal my true words, because I feel I need to be more central in my beliefs and in my responsibilities. I do have friends that care and hope to see me in a different layer of happiness, the ones I want, but at the same time, I also know this is something I have chosen. What is my question? Nothing of support. Real support can only happen through action and self-encouragement. However, the question I seek to be answered is simply: If you have the same or similar predicament as I do, can you tell me ways in focusing yourself, passing time to blanket these feelings?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2009): Fully stressed with blanket of emotions....
It's simple being alone is the absence of people and being lonely is the absence of something else (a void that needs fulfilment).
You can also be in a room full of people and be LONELY...see there's a difference.
Sounds like you have people around you; your lonely, get to know who you really are and be tough, but gentle about who you are and you will be amazed at the things you will/can conquer.
Pray, find out who you are and come out of this depression. It's no good for you. Your better than it.
Go for a walk, read a good book, laugh as hard as you can and watch some funny movies, etc. When it's for you to meet that special someone you will be whole/complete so that she wont have to utter this is my better half - WRONG - the both of you will be WHOLE and COMPLETE with one another.
Man...learn how to jump double dutch or play hop scotch if you don't already know...there's a twist in being deep and serious:-)
Have a blessed day and may God bless you.
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