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writes:Hey I got a question. Im a 28 year old man living single and my job keeps me extremely busy and always on the travel. Over the last couple years I have developed a male friend shom I met over the internet from a town that is about 40 miles from where I live. He is an open gay man and he really wants to give me blowjobs to completion. He knows I'm sexually frustrated right now and that is why he is offering it to me. He wants nothing in return and he knows I'm not gay so he doesn't have a chance at a relationship. Everything is VERY discreet as well. I mean I have absolutely NO passion to start a relationship with another man as I am still looking for a woman to call my wife. Women turn me on and its a woman that I yearn to have an intimate relationship with. But its something taboo about wanting a man to give me a blowjob not having to worry about having to hold back. Not having to worry about how fast I cum or anything that sex brings with it in an intimate relationship. What is everyone's take on this? I'm drawn to both sides but need input! Thanks everyone!!
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (4 February 2012):
 Not a good idea. You are opening yourself up to possible blackmail. Even if you are gay, I wouldn't meet up with someone I met on the internet (man or woman). You don't know this guy or his motives, and we all have motives.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2012): fantasizing about it and actually doing it are two different things, so think carefully if you do decide to meet this online male friend and accept his offer.
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reader, T.R. +, writes (3 February 2012):
Ok...as a straight man, this would never go through my head regardless of how sexually frustrated I was.
Having said that, maybe you're bi-curious and you're not even admitting that to yourself. If that's the case, then go for it. I do agree with the other posters that nothing in this world is truly "no strings attached" and even if this man doesn't expect anything initially, that WILL change if this arrangement lasts any time whatsoever.
If you do go through with it, you should also be prepared for it to open up feelings you may not even know you have... I could be completely wrong, but I think it's at least a possiblity.
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reader, celtic_tiger  +, writes (3 February 2012):
 So, you are sexually frustrated.
Rather than just deal with it yourself, you are going to let another guy give you a BJ? (apparently with no obligation to return the favour). To be honest I cannot see the logic in this.
I know masturbation is probably not the same as someone giving a BJ, but really? Is it the sexual release or the fact you will be getting a BJ that is really the issue here?
As a straight woman, no matter how sexually frustrated I was, I could not have another woman touch me in a sexual way. Personally it makes my skin crawl. But that is just my own personal preference.
Sex is about more than just a physical act, it goes far deeper than that,even if you do not see it at the time.
Once this has been done, it cannot be undone and you will have to live with the memory.
Well in doubt, don't do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2012): If you have been `friends` online with this guy for two years and it is culminating in him offering you sex and you are seriously considering it. Then I think you also need to consider the possibility that you are at the least, bi curious.
If you were just looking for a quick sexual fix that would have happened a long time ago with women but it hasnt. So i think you are slightly more into this guy than you realise. So you need to be totally honest with yourself and consider all the ramifications before you do anything you might later regret. At the very least meet him first for drinks or something before entering into any type of sexual activity with him. And wear a condom even if it is only a BJ, you can still pick up infections/diseases.
But a straight guy wouldnt consider sex with a man for a moment. So if you are 100% sure you are straight, just hook up with a like minded woman for no strings sex, there are plenty of online sites for such things. That should solve the problem for you without leading to any profound regrets later.
A lot of online encounters are just froth and bubbles, you dont REALLY know who you are dealing with. But I do know for a fact that it is a turn on for some gay guys just to pop a straight guy`s cherry...so to speak. And then they disappear on you and move on to to another male `challenge`. Who knows if this guy is like that or not. He could well give you a BJ and then vanish, leaving you with all sorts of issues. Not least that you miss him and want more but hes suddenly unavailable. Or he could change his mind when he meets you, get funny with you and demand the same sexual acts back from you. What will you do then? Many men are raped but feel too ashamed to come forward. It is a risky thing you are doing for someone who isnt even sure it is what they want.
My advice would be to stay friendly with him if you value his friendship but seek out like minded women for no strings sex... if that is all this is about. You will have less to regret later.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (3 February 2012):
 If the idea feels uncomfortable dont do it!
Just because your sexually frustrated doesnt mean you dont have other choices.
Also if you make the decision to do this with him you need to be able to enjoy the experience,
but as your hesitating and doubting i personally offer the view that this is not something your comfortable with and therefore should not do it.
Hope it all works out!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2012): Ya know, there are guys who have fantasies. Perfectly straight, married guys, with kids, who have been married to perfect women forever. And after 20 years of the same routine in the bedroom, despite loving their wives, wives who many years ago decided that him cumming in her mouth wasn't on, well ...What's gay? Seriously, is a bj gay? It's a mouth
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reader, YouWish +, writes (3 February 2012):
 If you're curious about being with this guy, go for it! You're not dating anyone else, and if you're interested, why not?
I will give you something to think about though before you make your decision. If you're still looking for a woman to call your wife, what will you say to her about the day you had a sexual encounter with another man? I'm guessing if you want her to be open about her sexual history, you will be as well?
Being with a guy isn't all about having a blowjob where you don't hold back. It's also reciprocating as well. Don't believe any guy who says he "wants nothing back" because nobody ever goes into a sexual relationship without expecting mutual satisfaction. So if you're not attracted and interested in this guy and are only curious about receiving a blowjob, you may want to think about it some more.
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (3 February 2012):
 Hi,
Are you sure you are not bisexual? Don't you think it will feel weird if a guy go down on you and touch you? Don't get me wrong, I totally understand and respect gay people, don't see them differently, to me it doesn't matter and I consider them just like any regular, normal people. I am straight female, and I wouldn't like or have any interest in being with another female, it's just not my preference. It doesn't matter how sexually frustrated I was, I wouldn't. That's why I am confused? Back to your question, I think it's ok as long as you both understand that you don't want to pursue anything further than just a casual encounter. As long as nobody get hurt, I don't see any problem. If you don't mind being with a man, maybe you have some sort of fantasy, curiosity why not? I think you should do what makes you happy.
Good luck
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reader, unknown2u +, writes (3 February 2012):
Right then -- he really wants nothing in return? So you buy the idea that he's happy to get you off, no questions. Does he know your true identity, or just an internet anon?
If you're confident that you're really anon; if you're confident the he's really OK with what he's proposing, that he's just someone who will enjoy doing it. If you can stand the idea that you might be outed in a year or 10 years when you're standing for office .....
Then sure, go for it.
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