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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi. I have a bit of a long winded problem but I'll explain as quick as I can. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years we both love each other very much and we are best friends. The problem is he has no sex drive due to medication that he's taking and he doesn't seem to care because he'd needs the medication more then he needs sex as he told me in a conversation. I love being around him but the no sex thing is a bit annoying. It's been 1 year or so since anything happened in the bedroom and I've been feeling the frustration but because I love him so much I've pretty much dealt with it. But . . last night I was chatting to a friend on msn and we've always been really good friends who can talk about anything I was discussing this problem and we had our webcams on and our conversation was getting more and more flirty and we were both very turned on. We let each other watch ourselves masturbate and we had a great time. We have no desire to be with each other on a relationship basis, no emotional attachment we're friends plain and simple. It felt really good just to know that I'm not inadequate in any way and he made me feel really sexy which is something my partner never communicates to me. It makes me sad that I did this and I know fair well that it's wrong and it's not a plan for myself and my friend to ever do it again. It was just straight up spur of the moment and something I needed. Just I'd rather it was my boyfriend making me feel sexy. I have tried having conversations about it with him but he just can't stop taking the medication for me and I appreciate that but he doesn't appreciate that I go without and get more and more frustrated. I want to be with him and support him I just don't know how to deal with my sexual feelings because I'm 20 and I want to feel that excitement with him. Whats the solution to this problem I really love him but it's a bit unfair.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (17 April 2010):
 Watching each other masturbate is a dangerous thing because he could take those hot and sizzling pixs and upload online or pass it around.
Sex is an important part of a relationship. You should not short changed yourself .
You have a right to happiness and if he cannot perform it , you have a right to find someone who will.
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