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female
age
41-50,
*L9
writes:For the past few months a guy and I have been having what I can only describe as a staring contest whenever we're in the same room. We've been friendly in the past and when I started feeling sexually attracted to him (because of his intense staring, and smiling when we did talk which gave me the impression he liked me - we did flirt) I got shy and I find it hard to talk to him as comfortably as I used to anymore. I barely acknowledge him first, we only talk if he initiates the conversation which he's doing less and less and now it only happens when I'm with another person. He'll make a point of talking to them and doesn't make much eye contact with me, yet he can do it from a distance. Today when our eyes met across the room, he looked straight at me and looked away exasperated. I thought that was a clear sign he's tired of my BS (ignoring him because I am crazy about him) or entirely dislikes me and would rather avoid me from now on. So I leave the room, pretty satisfied that his expression was my answer.Then 20 minutes later, I'm outside getting into the car while talking to a friend and he's walking to his, his head turned to the side, genuinely smiling at me. I can't figure that out, he acts like he dislikes me then he doesn't. He could have just walked to his car, it's not as if looking in my direction and acknowledging me is unavoidable. I'm not sure what happened between the look in the room and the smiling outside. Guys, if you're into a girl and she's not paying you attention would that be something you reacted to with a pissed off expression? He was obviously looking at me before hand, but the exasperated look wasn't AT me, he had the courtesy to look away before he made it. Anyway that look was my sign to give it up with this guy, i figured it's hate/blatant disinterest, but when he faces me to smile at me outside, i just don't get what he's doing. WTF is with that? I've never experienced it before. And because i was thinking of what happened inside, I ignored the smile so once again we get nowhere. I've known complete avoidance/hate and it doesn't involve ever smiling at the person. He seems to be doing half and half and I don't know what it's supposed to mean or how to respond to it. Could he be giving that look to show he's pissed off by how i'm acting towards him but then smiling because he's still trying with me? The 2 different reactions are messing with my head.comments, advice, help is greatly appreciated here, thanks.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (5 May 2011):
 Is he in his 30s? Because he sounds like he's in in teens! I don't know, maybe he doesn't really have the social skills down pat yet, and is more comfortable from a distance, pulling faces at people.
Just try to have a normal conversation with him about the weather or something.
If he keeps pulling weird faces and stares, maybe he is trapped in some weird social limbo. I wouldn't think too much about it if he never takes steps to actually get to know you. Some people have socialization issues and never learn how to make friends.
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