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writes:I was wondering if anybody could help me?Basically, I've had this great teacher for 2 years now and she is a really great person and teacher of course! But I am leaving in 4 weeks time and I really want to let her know how much of a help she has been for me, I've never leant on her for emotional support or anything, just purely teacher-student but when i leave, would it be deemed 'inappropriate' for me to meet up with her for coffee or something? Say, go into town and have a drink with her? Because I have the whole summer holidays and obviously, that is going to be 6 weeks, plus the additional 4 weeks because of GCSE exams. I am 16 years old and 17 in September, but this would be nothing sexual at all, only in a friendship way, and I would never want that from her as she has a stable relationship at home, with her husband. And this would be purely friendship based, I was wondering, also if anybody had any ideas or advice over the best way to approach this when I do finally leave?Say, a note or face to face chat, or what? I would really like to see her out of school as I am leaving and wouldnt ever see her again and I really wouldnt want that to happen, she is really open minded and down to earth, and I do not think that she would take it wrongly as she always asks me about my weekend or my holidays, not me instigating them, which I think she feels relaxed when talking to me, no pretences either, just a very nice lady to be honest.If anyone could advise me I would appreciate it greatly, Because she is just great :) Thankyou fellow Dear Cupids :) x Reply to this Question
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (16 April 2009):
 Well you leave school officially and then depending on what your school is like I think you can visit once in a while. Talk to your teachers about anything that you are unsure of, they will understand and be able to clean up any little worries that you may have! X
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah thats a good idea :) both of you thankyou its just that you know, i dont want to leave and never see her again because im going to a school in a different area if you get me, I just thought it would be nice to see her again now and then, so I'll just write a little letter after GCSE's I dont even get what happens after my last exam and prom, do you just leave forever, i dont know! anyone know? x
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (16 April 2009):
I left school 3years ago and I'm still friends with my teachers, I go into school and visit them. There is one especially who I am friends with and I even went to her wedding! There are certain boundaries, for example, my teacher would not attend pubs with me and would not drink alcohol with me, don't do anything against the law (which is obvious) now that I'm 18 we go to bars. Why don't you write her a letter and tell her that you appreciate her for being there for you, and tell her that you would like to keep in contact (leave an email address at the end of the letter, don't leave a phone number though) that way you can email and maybe give a contact number through that, but by giving her your number straight away she may feel pressured. X
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): i have to say this is quite odd.
i mean, i get on with some of my teachers amazingly and i will really miss them, but i wouldnt suggest meeting up for coffee with them.
but each to their own, AND i think that a note would be way too childish.
im thinking a letter AFTER the exams to say thank you would be the most appropriate.
or an email?
also...we have more than 6 weeks off i think :)
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