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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:dear cupid,i wouldn't say my problem is all that different from a lot of other girls' out there.. i was dating this guy 5 years back.. we met in a club.. really hit it off.. n i had a big crush on him.. he asked me out the next morning.. i was in boarding school back then, n its was a long distance relationship thing.. we stayed up nights talking to each other over the phone, and when it came to the end of our fourth month together, i broke up with him. i had my reasons, although he was a great guy n i trusted him, my sister told me he was cheating on me n that she'd heard this from a common friend she trusted, and all my friends brain washed me into dumping him because they thought i could do much better... so i did. he tried calling back many times, but my friends hid those calls from me. so i realized that maybe he was a jerk, n it didn't mean much to him.ok now forwarding to a year back, college starts and i bump into him, he's studying in england n he's doing great, so i give him a call the next day and we keep in touch. he called me every second day for the first 2 months, gave me all kinds of mixed signals.. n soon i find out that he didn't cheat on me, instead it was his best friend who had a crush on me n wanted us to split up so he bitched him out to her. i get the vibes that he adores me, all the time, n its stupid of me to not to say that i love him, its the real thing.we speak about the past n how it was best we broke up because our families wont ever agree on any relationship with each other. n he said he didn't want to complicate things n that we should just be friends.even I've realized that theres no chance of us having a future. he just got back from england and he's about to graduate. its been more than a week since he's gotten back and we haven't spoken to each other more than once,that to for 10 minutes, i tried calling him a few times and got the same "hey i'm busy, i'll give u a call in a while" line.i am so used to talking to him everyday , at least when he's back in town that its bothering me beyond my control. i literally wait for him to get back. i adore this person, and i haven't dated since, sometimes, he is all i think about. I really need help getting a grip or at least understanding this situation. what can i do to make things easier for myself? and when he does call n pretends as though every things great, how should i respond? this is going to change a lot of things for me so i desperately need help.. soon. thanks a billion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2009): ok babe, judging by the way your talking about him its clear that you feel very strongly for him. if i was you i would tell him how i feel. you cant go on like this if your thinking about him constantly. Forget about your familes, why cant you be together? Its your life.you deserve to be happy? would you still be together today if your friends hadnt have broken you up? if you think you would still be together then i suggest you tell him. If you dont tell him how you feel you could lose him, he mught drift away. what have you got to lose. maybe he doesnt realise just how you feel, he could feel the same way but you will never know unlesss you talk to him. if you dont you may look back in years to come and regret not telling him. life is too short and you should try to make yourself as happy as you can in it. If that means being with him then you should. i really hope everything works out for u.x
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