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writes:I have been having a sexual relationship with someone at work. It's been going on for several months and I have no idea how long it will last. I think I have developed feelings for this person but don't want to admit it as I don't want to end the relationship we have now. Another man at work gave his number to go out as friends? He seems like a nice guy too but if I am friends with second man, I feel they may think I am playing them both. I want to be friends with both and would be interested in maybe a relationship with one of them. How do I handle this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo, I decided to send a message to guy who gave his number,who we will call "B", while chatting with him, my fwb messaged me to watch out because B is trying to get back at his ex. I know my fwb is right because of other details which is too long to explain here. So I know at least to stay clear of B but still don't why my fwb would bother to warn me if he was just interested in sex. He actually has been putting off the sex thing too for a while so now I am really confused
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2011): Since you are interested in a possible relationship, I would steer away from hopes that will come from casual sex (your current FWB) or men who ask you out as "friends" (aka sex). A man with geniune interest in you will ask you out for dinner and not to hang out and definitely not as friends. Don't tell anyone about your FWB or you will continue to get used for sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2011): Tell the second guy that you are in a FWB and he might just decline to get romantically involved with you in the first place. I personally find it a huge turnoff when I hear that a woman will do FWB with anyone.
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reader, DanceInTheDark +, writes (25 July 2011):
 Go for it.
Look, your guy friend doesn't view you has a "romantic interest" You're just sex. It's not of his goddamn business if you befriend another guy.
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