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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Wondering if you all could help me with a situation I'm having with my "friends with benefits" if it was that serious. It's more of a f*ck buddy relationship because we weren't friends at the time we met. Anyway, we've been going on for more than half a year and I don't know about him but I'm surprised we've gone on for that long. I've developed feelings for him over the course of that time but I don't really know how he's feeling and I'm afraid to bring it up to him or even ask him because I don't want to ruin our arrangement. Apart of me thinks he does because of the way he acts when we're together but he's usually laid back when we communicate so it's hard to to tell through what he says, but actions speak louder than words right? Even if he didn't feel the same, believe me, I'll get over it. I've got thick skin and the feelings I have are still pretty fresh. I just want to know what it could look like to someone on the outside of the situation before I put myself out there. So what does it look like to all of you? Like I said, I'm surprised it went on for this long and I thought it was going to be just a hook-up and move on sort of deal but he's the one that contacted me first after to meet up again. He's very understanding when I can't meet up with him and that tends to be whenever he initiates a meeting because I always seem to be busy cause I have a busy life, so you would ask why does he bother?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2011): He bothers because you've made an easy arrangement which seems to have worked for you. You know if he feels more if he rings for a chat or you ever go anywhere else or if it's just meeting for sex. If he just gets in touch and bangs you, then FWB is all it is. You know the score, and you know when to get out if you are in too deep. I salute you!
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