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writes:HI, there is this guy i used to like and i told him he didn't pay attention and so on, this was like 5 years ago. And he was a major womaniser. Anyway, so i started dating this guy and he started dating this girl, and this guy who i liked his name is M, so me and M got together even though we dated someone else. It was just kissing though and going to the cinema. I broke up later on with my bf and then after few hours he breaks up with his gf...Anyway, me and M are friends with benefits now, and his friends know and my friends know. So we are very good friends, and his best friend is my best friend as well. haha. So, in 2012 i went to another country to study, and this summer i came back and went to the same summer destination as him with his friends. So he calls me to come to their place cos we didn't see each other in ages and plus our best friend is there as well. So, all of us a friends,ok. I come, and he picks me up at the bus station and he hugs me very strongly, for the frist time. ALSO, forgot to mention he had a gf who doesn't know that he gets high, smokes, drinks, cheats etc, she is dumb but she likes him a lot. So i went to their place every day and slept there and so on. We had some good chats. So i slept with M and out best friend . M kept on spooning me, hugging me all night until we woke up, which was nice. He would joke with me in the sea. We had a nice moment when we just sat on a bed and hugged. When we are out he would just come from behind scare me and lift me and carry me. And then his friends where there and like his two close friends which i met this summer told me like ' oh when he heard you are coming he was so excited and he started cleaning the whole place', ' Just tell him that we should go now to the club, he will only listen to you if you tell him' and he did only listen to me, although in some moments he was trying to be cool so he acted like a jerk but its normal from guys. Then the last night we did have sex, although at the beach haha. We were in a club and i sat down on the stair to get out something from my shoe and he came to me and put his hand around me and worried something was wrong with me, even though i JUST sat to get something out... And like everyone respected me, his friends who i met, then his friends i already knew etc which is good.Also, M spoke to my friend and he told her like ' I only choose with whom am i gonna get with and so on, i used to get with anyone, but this year it is different', but he did choose me which is good :) Also, he in the sea with my best friend and he kept on asking her about my bf(now he is a ex) like where does he come form, how long are we together, how does he look like,etc.. but he doesn't ask me that?WEll this is my short version haha. So i need someones opinion? Does this mean anything? May he like me? ANy opinion would be great because i honestly do not know what to do anymore, I am so confused :( Thank you xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2013): I wonder what he tells her about you?
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (7 September 2013):
It sounds like he's already getting what he wants from you and he probably has no intention of replacing his current girl with you.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 September 2013):
 I wonder how he describes you? If he GF is that dumb, yet he is still with her, so whether you like it or not and whether he calls her dumb or not, HE wants to be with HER - not you.
She is.. GF-material. YOU... are someone to have sex with every now and then.
iAmHereToHelpYou put it nicely and bluntly.
The guy is a He-whore. He didn't CHOOSE you, as he STILL has a GF.
You really think all his friends respect you? You think HE respects you?
I'm sorry. I DO think the GF is dumb is she can't figure out she is dating a loser, but honey, you aren't smarter at all, because you KNOWINGLY sleep with a guy who HAS a GF and who is a loser.
Do you really value yourself that little? That you accept being his sloppy seconds?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2013): "he had a gf who doesn't know that he gets high, smokes, drinks, cheats etc, she is dumb but she likes him a lot"
The only person who could possibly be even dumber than that girlfriend would be another girl who DOES know that he gets high, smokes, drinks, cheats, etc but she still likes him a lot and not only that, she's willing to serve as his piece on the side, in his eyes nothing more than a quick easy lay available for casual sex strictly for his pleasure and strictly at his convenience while she wonders if he "likes" her.
Some judgmental people might think that a such a girl is not only dumb, but also completely without morals and completely without shame.
If a guy like that has such disrespect for his "dumb" girlfriend that he has a regular piece on the side, then how much respect could he possibly have for the even "dumber" chick who's letting him bang her despite knowing first-hand what a lying, cheating scumbag he is?
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