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female
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36-40,
*il_mizz_cute07
writes: Just need some advice and opinions on a current situation I have: Ok here goes, a male colleague has been flirting with me for a good cpl months, he's a cpl yrs younger than me but acts older. Thing is he has a Gf but it doesn't sound great between them. We get on really well, always cuddling / giving each-other little shoulder massages, if i'm down he knows without me saying, has a nickname for me, told me he really missed me over the xmas period. If I just act friendly with him he thinks i'm upset with him and the other day asked if I was ok with him, yesterday he called over from another dept and said he wanted to check I was ok as I wasn't happy the day before and according to him misserable which he hates. At a recent work do had a few dances together, if i moved away from him on the dance floor he'd follow or just grab me. Im not the type of person to try and steal him away from his gf, but I don't know how to handle things now, when he talks about his gf he doesn't seem enthuastiac or that bothered about her or changes the topic, I may be leaving soon as my contract is due to end next month and I know he doesn't want me to but he could also leave soon if the company doesn't need him any longer. It's the little things that make it different from how he is with everyone else, for example he's a friendly guy and talks to everyone guys and girls at work, gave ppl cuddles at the work do and on last day at work but he gave me more hugs, always wants to help me, has stayed late over his time to help me even on his sisters bday when he was meant to be going out etc. I don't want to make things awkward at work if there's no chance of me n him, and i won't do anything till he's single but I don;t know where I stand, or what to do anymore, I can't get him out of my head. Suggestions, tips, advice would be very much appreciated!
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reader, BigCuz +, writes (10 January 2015):
Life is to short to short change yourself, if u feel his feelings are mutual, be open & clear & just say something, don't be afraid of rejection or failure, life is acceptance & rejection, sucess & failure, the biggest failure is not to even try, its within your own means to know, do yourself a favor & just ask & see what happens
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