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writes:Found out my friend was never really my friend and just interested in me romantically. I feel it’s all been a huge lie and wonder if I should end communication with them! I feel betrayed and even foolish Reply to this Question
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reader, Myau  +, writes (8 June 2024):
 Yeah people can use you for their own ends.
It sucks but it is in no way your fault.
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reader, kenny  +, writes (4 June 2024):
 I know its hard as you feel betrayed, but what happened was out of your hands and you had no control over them having romantic feelings for you.
Time is the healer of all things, the emotions you are currently feeling will gradually dissipate.
Once things have settled you can then make your decision as to whether you want to cut them out of your life or not.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (4 June 2024):
 Shit happens OP.
Now you know and you can cut said "friend" out of your life.
YOU have to remember that you cannot control other people, their actions, feeling or choices. All you can control is HOW you react to it.
Yes, it sucks to realize someone "pretended" to be your friend to get in your pants.
Try not to feel foolish, you can't read minds and said "friend" probably hid their intentions pretty well.
Their ACTIONS don't make YOU foolish.
Feeling betrayed I think is only natural. But in the end, try and let it go.
Now, block this "friend" on EVERYTHING - then delete all contact info. Make sure to set your privacy setting so they can not follow you or see what you are up to.
Then shake it off and move on with life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2024): Did the friend do something to betray you or prove themselves to be a false friend? Or was it just about their romantic interest in you?
Some relationships start out as friendships and develop into something romantic. Personally I think a strong friendship is a good basis for a relationship, if both parties are interested. From what you say, you aren't though, but the person was maybe brave to reveal their feelings.
This is just a guess, as your question is quite short and not much detail is given.
I hope it's possible to give them the benefit of the doubt.
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