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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:?It was my friends daughters 7th birthday and I bought her a present of a particular tv cartoon character that she loves. The present cost me £25.Just to note- I asked her mum what she would like and her mum told me to get her this. When she unwrapped it her mum texted me to say that she already had the same gift from another family member. I kept the receipt so I told her I would exchange it for something else.A couple days later my friend sent me a link of what her daughter wanted- this gift cost £40 - I’m on a tight budget I can’t afford the extra £15 for her new gift. I felt awkward so I explained this to my friend and asked what else her daughter would like for around the same price. My friend surprisingly wasn’t so understanding and texted back her daughter had a look but didn’t want anything else on my budget.I told my friend she was welcome to take the receipt and take her daughter to pick out something else but I was sorry but I couldn’t afford to add anymore money to the existing gift. Since this my friend has been off with me. She’s ignoring my texts and we were supposed to be going to lunch and she canceled on me. She never responded to my text so she still has the gift and I have the receipt. I’m worried that time will pass and she won’t be able to exchange it if she leaves it too long (she has 28 days but I bought it almost 2 weeks ago).This has never happened with her before and im surprised of her entitled attitude but I do feel guilty at the same time but I don’t think it’s my responsibility to buy this more expensive item!Thoughts….
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (2 July 2023):
 Your "friend" is entitled and greedy. In your shoes, I would not pursue this relationship any further. The ball's now in her court. If she doesn't get in touch, leave things be. You don't owe her anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2023): What an ungrateful scrounger. I would return the gift and buy something for yourself instead. What a cheek even asking you to replace it. She is no friend and you are better off without them in your life. Keep the money and next time don't bother buying anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2023): Is this the same friend whose kid you took to an arts and crafts store and then expected you to foot the bill? That post sounded very similar.
But I agree with HoneyPie. She's not your friend. She's an entitled user. Let the friendship slide.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2023): At this rate by the time the kid is 8 youll be back to square one with the same problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2023): She is not a friend shes is a bully, greedy and selfish.
You are daft to bother with her.Let alone buy her stuff and try to make her happy. Walk away. Find real friends.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (29 June 2023):
 This is not a friend, this is a greedy entitled person.
Stop trying to be her friend. Don't worry about the gift, you GOT the kid what SHE said you should buy, it's NOT up to you to go return it and buy something fancier.
And the kid is 7! She doesn't need expensive stuff.
This is a "friend" I would be too busy to spend time with from now on.
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