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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:???Hi, I need some advice to see what’s happening. I e been working in my current company for 12 years and there this one guy in particular who managed this particular branch and is based about 90 minutes away from us.I used to deal with him regularly- he was always really helpful and over the years developed a friendship. We only ever dealt with each other over the phone. If he ever used to visit our office for meetings he’d always pop in to say hi.He is married with kids and around 15 years older than me.I’ve never got any flirting or odd vibe with him.Things however changed a bit when I got married a few years ago- once i got back from honeymoon my surname had changed so when I emailed him regarding a customer he replied to me saying;So you got married then?To which I replied “I certainly did” He never replied back and for about 7/8 months he wasn’t as friendly with me and would rush me on the phone instead of having a quick chat. I put it down to him being busy.Fortunately things got back to normal after.Then covid hit so we were all furloughed and then working from home- my job on the meantime changed so I wasn’t dealing much with his clients so not speaking with him much.Recently however I’ve been speaking to him more often as I’ve been given more of his clients. Now I work primarily from home - I go in to the office once a week on random days. A few months ago he was in our building for a meeting- the same day I was in- he gave me a huge hug and told me that next time he was down we could grab a drink as have a catch up. A few weeks ago he was back in (just to note neither of us ever told the other when we’d be in the office it was coincidence). We went out for a drink in our lunch hour. There was no secrecy- all my colleagues knew we were going out for lunch as it really was just 2 friends catching up. We had a lovely time. After he said to me that next time he would take me to lunch - I agreed. What I’ve noticed is that he now seems to make contact with me everyday about irrelevant things…. So I have no idea if I’mJust overthinking this and it’s innocent or if I’m being naive and he is after something? There’s No attraction on my part- but now I’m worried in case he feels there was more to our friendship …….I’m due to meet him for lunch next week - what shall I do? Do I address the issue and speak to him or ignore it and see what he does?
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (2 July 2023):
 Lady, you are playing with fire and, if you don't step back, you will get burned. Run this situation past your husband and ask him for HIS advice.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (1 July 2023):
 "Do I address the issue and speak to him or ignore it and see what he does?"
If you THINK he could be interested in you, WHY are you having one-on-one lunches with him?
If you see him as a friend only, I wouldn't bring it up.
However, how does your husband feel about you having lunch with this guy?
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