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writes:I kissed my cousin and now I'm in love! We have kissed before but it freaked us out. I really want to tell him how i feel but don't know how.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2008): Hi! I have read your little article and i would like to tell you that i am in love with my cousin too...OK, i am an 18 year-old boy and she is a 19 year-old girl.We did all these things together,we always had such a great time...but than,i slowly realised that i am in love with her...i had no idea how to tell her,did not know if it would be okay to tell her or not,but i did not see any reason in hiding my feelings,so i did it...i told her that i am in love with her...and that is one of the biggest mistakes i ever made. :(( Because since than,she doesn't write to me anymore,she doesn't call anymore.I told her that if i knew that this thing bothers her so much,i wouldn't have told her.She said that it is okay,i said i am sorry and again,she said that it is okay.But i know it's not okay.Before i would tell her,she would write SMS messages to me everyday,we met allmost everyday,but since i told her,it's like i don't even exist anymore.If only she would know how i feel,she might understand me...but it's too late now...she doesn't love me anymore,i guess,in anyway...not even as a cousin anymore...why did i do it? This is something i will regret all my life. As for You and anyone else who reads this,i can NOT tell You what to do...you see,before i would tell her,i really tought that she will understand me,in fact i tought that she feels the same...but i was sooo wrong... so i can't tell anyone what to do,but i soooo wish i could just give back time and don't say anything...but it's too late now. The mistake has been made,she doesn't accept me anyomore...but there is also something else...i am an 18 year old boy,i was NEVER in love before,but she,she is just soooo different,and my feelings are just too strong for her to ignore.Guess i will be alone for the rest of my life and lonelyness is so painful... I wish the best of luck to all who are in the same situation!! If anyone has some ideas on how to fix this,especially girls,because girls might know better what would they want to hear from a boy,than PLEASE tell me,because right now,i feel really miserable... thanx for reading my article.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): Just tell him how you feel next time you are alone with him. Start by telling him you really, really like him and would like to hang out with him on a regular basis. You don't want to keep your feelings bottled up inside. Tell him so that you will be able to know if he feels the same way. You can't help who you fall in love with, so go with what you feel and take it from there. Only thing is that if you decide to have a relationship with him, you will probably have to keep it a secret from your family.
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reader, Artistry +, writes (4 June 2008):
 Hi, It is not hard to find that you like someone of the opposite sex, who is a member of your family, especially a cousin. Nature is nature. When I was young I had a serious crush on one of my male cousins, I thought he was the greatest, and he liked me as well. We did not take our liking each other to any kind of physical level. I still like him today, as a special person, we even had nicknames for each other, our liking each other was and is real. But we both found people outside of the family to be involved with, and kept our special friendship just that, a good friendship with a relative, nothing more. You are very young, you will have many crushes and will be infatuated
with a few boys or men. You will grow and learn what a real bond with a member of the opposite sex, with love and affection can be. You kissed your cousin, perhaps that is where you should leave it, there are many other boys in the world besides your cousin. You have so much life to live,
if you take this kiss, and go further into a more physical relationship, you have to remember that you are cousins, and you will always be cousins, and if you don't want to have this relationship as a part of your, not so happy memories, if it does not work out, if and when you move on to someone else, and at this age, you will, then you have to leave it where it is now. We change many times as we grow, and you will not be the same person at 21 as you are at 14 or 15. What you feel is love, may only be a strong crush. Give yourself time to grow, and learn what love is. A beating heart and flushed face, are all a part of physical reactions to sexual stimulus, a part of being human. A cousin can cause these responses, but because you are of the opposite sex, not necessarily because you are in love. You should, in my estimation, stand back from this possible relationship and think how it will effect both your futures. As I stated before, you are very young, give yourself space and time, you may not feel, the same way you do now, in six months. Why not let some time pass, and see where you are, do not push for more in the relationship than has taken place already. When you are older, if you still think you love your cousin, then you will have a better understanding, of what you might want to have happen between the two of you. Give this time, you will make the right decision, as you go forward. Also, do not be afraid to talk to someone outside of your family about this, someone a bit older than you, who you can trust. Bless
you as you grow and learn about life.
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reader, Aeval  +, writes (4 June 2008):
 Will your family be supportive of this?
Maybe just cool off for a little while and see how you feel then?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2008): ok well if you have kissed b4 and he let you do it again theres a really good chance that he likes you back and maybe even love that you say you feel for him.... sit him down...tell him this is important . Ask him how he feels about the kiss...did he like it ....does he intend to do it again?? does he like you .... then if he does tell him how you feel...make sure of course it's just you and him.... it's hard to like one of your cousins...lots of problems may come up but if you both are ready and willing to deal with them then I see no prob with you liking each other...although I can't tell your fam will react.
I wish you the very best !!!
GOOD LUCK!!!!
*~VG~*
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