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writes:Please can someone give me advice on how to forget/let go of someone! I'm holding onto scrapings of hope and I know it won't work! it's been 4 years of texting and only meeting a handful of times and nothing has progressed!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (23 July 2016):
 wish them well, end it in a classy manner, then you BLOCK the person, delete the number and try not to dwell on it.
Go out with friends, spend time with family, pick up old or a new hobby and GET on with life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2016): Four years is a long time to continue texting someone without something concrete coming out of it.And you do know nothing concrete will ever come out of it. It has been four years. Much too long already. You know your answer. As much as your heart wishes it was different. And I am sorry. It is very hard when you feel something for a guy that is strong and you keep hoping he will feel the same way back. But he doesn't. And that is why you kept texting him for so long. You were holding onto hope. Hope that things would change. That he would sooner or later realize what a great girl you are. That he would see you were perfect for him. That he would realize he had feelings for you too. But that is the stuff fairy tales are made. The fairy tales girls feed off. And guys do know this. Sometimes they get a boost to their ego stringing us along because they know we are emotional and caring and hang onto them. And they just like the attention. It does not mean love. Do not feel bad. Don't feel rejected. Not every guy that comes along is meant for us. No matter how much we want him to be. And the sooner we realize it, the easier it is on our hearts. But I understand how you feel. Many of us hang on far too long because it's just the way women are built. Sometimes we are too caring, loving and hopeful for our own good. Especially if we are vulnerable, young or naïve. I suggest you stop texting him. Stop initiating the texts and stop responding to his. It will be hard at first but if you get through the first few weeks, it will get easier. I promise. But hang in there. Instead, get out there and start living. It's summer. You are young and free. You have the whole world at your feet right now. Trust me, life goes by far too quickly. And it is over. Do not wallow in anything. You are too young for that. You have the gift of life to celebrate. Your good health. Your youth. Your promise of a future. All the wonderful things life has to offer. Be yourself. Be happy. Have fun. Laugh. And start meeting new people and socialize. Even if you don't get a guy yet, it's okay. Have fun. Just enjoy doing all your favourite things. Concentrate on building yourself up and focusing on what you want your future to look like. You are in a position where you can do whatever you want and not have regrets. So go out and do it. And stop obsessing over this guy who is a waste of time in your precious life. Ok? Don't ever let a guy dull your shine or wipe the smile off your face. You are beautiful. Don't forget it. ;)Hugs.
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