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writes:i have a question for women...but guys can comment to...if you a single mother of twin boys (7yrs old), go to college to get your associates degree, okay you still live at home but that's why you going to school, to get your life together and have a secure future for you and your boys,collecting unemployment benefits because you lost your job due to the economy and you are barely making it with it but you managing, will you be with a guy who is 27 yrs old (oh by the way im 26 yrs old)still lives in his mothers basement, dont have a job or high school diploma or ged, smokes weed and askes you for the money to buy it, askes you for money to by food to eat because his mother goes to work and dont buy food for the house because his mother feels that she does not have little kids to look after, askes you to go over to his house and all you and him do is have sex and sleep and your money all goes to him with buying weed and buying food to eat and then after being in his house for 3 days when you go back home has the nerve to ask for more money to hold him down until you go back to his house the next week and you been with this person for 4 years, what would you do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2011): "what would you do?"
Older guy response: I would immnediately take my seven year old sons in for an immediate comprehensive mental health evaluation while they are still young enough to have a chance to overcome the complete moral vacuum that has been their lives from earliest memory and go on to live happy, healthy, productive adult lives.
I would take a sliver of hope that as twins they haven't suffered in isolation. Each has always had the other to be there for him, and considering what they've already endured I'm sure they've found the comfort and strength in each other to get them through what must have been some long and lonely times. Even at seven, they've probably figured out they will be essentially raising each other in the absence of a responsible parent.
Your sons have always known they have someone on whom they can always depend. I sincerely believe they've given each other the grounding they need to overcome the example (as in complete lack thereof) their female breeder has set for them in essentially abandoning them and stealing their money so she can keep a loser in weed in exchange for continued sex.
My thoughts and prayers are with them. Kids are incredibly tough and resilient in the worst of circumstances, but multi-birth offspring have the huge advantage of knowing someone's ALWAYS there for them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2011): I think you know the answer already. It doesn't matter how nice the guy is, or how good the sex is. If that guy is asking you for for money to buy his drugs, then he knows he's taking resources that are meant for you and your kids, not his selfish backside. He doesn't care about your circumstances, your family, or the amount of work you have had to do just to get by.Your family doesn't need this guy and neither do you. There are better men in the world, and the amount of commitment you have shown both to yourself and to your kids shows that you deserve better.You know what to do. Kick this guy into touch.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2011): Get rid of him! Every time he takes money from you for weed, he is taking it away from your children, and they have to come first. He is using you badly, and whilst you keep enabling him you will not get your life together.
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