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writes:I was dealing with a guy for about a year. Towards the end of our thing I met his "enemy". Ive ran into him before but we never spoke. This night we actually ended up kissing. I was drunk and so was he. Any who the night ends and we exchange numbers. The next I day I was hoping he forgot about last night and didn't text me. Wrong. He did. I knew what I was doing was wrong but I wanted to do it. Come a week later I find out the guy I've been seeing has a girlfriend. Has had a girlfriend for 2 years. I used to go to school with the girl. And to add insult to injury he denied ever even knowing me. I was hurt. But hey life goes on. Now I'm still talking to his enemy and everyone thinks I'm doing it to be spiteful. When I don't think I am. I like this guy. And after the lack of respect my guy showed for me. I don't feel I owe him anything. Am I wrong?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (17 February 2012):
 Only you didn't know that, right? What you knew was, "I am cheating on him".
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhile I was in the wrong. It was only a few days where my ex lied about everything the entire time we were together. So my wrong doing was very short lived.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 February 2012):
 Do no evil, fear no evil. You know that you are not seeing the new guy out of revenge or spite but because you really like him, so what do you care about what people says, let them talk .
You don't owe anything to your ex, - because he is an ex and because by the way you use the word " dealing " and " our thing " rather than bf and gf, I guess things weren't not so terribly serious anyway between you.
Then again, as Danielepew says, even if your ex was wrong in pretending to be single and free... you haven't been very correct either in hooking up with the new guy before ending things officially with the old one. Keep this in mind next time you feel angry at your ex for his twotiming.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (17 February 2012):
I don't think you're doing this to get back at the man who lied to you and used you. Now, I would like you to notice that you found out he was lying and using you only after you met his enemy and did the wrong thing. I say, you cheated as well. I think you're only even.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2012): You are not wrong.
Its the pathetic sack of skin that thinks he is a man that is the creep in all of this. He was dishonest and he is a cheat.
You like and chose who you like and this Enemy, has the decency to not cheat on anyone; is single, and is genuine about liking you.
Thats what matters.
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