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writes:I am seeing this man for coming 4 yrs, after one yr together I found out he was cheating on me, the other girl mailed me some of their pics together. I confranted him, he cried n beg me to forgive him n I did and he promised that he will end the relationship with her and he was so sure he wanted me..that girl non stop harrasing me and I know they are still in contact and I never stopped him because I wanted him to help her to get over the break up.. I was silly!! He never broke up with her and they planned to get married and they did I only found out two weeks before the wedding...He never stopped calling me and he even cried to me on the phone on his wedding day...He continues to call me after his wedding, I ignored him for 3 mths but I finally gave in... I am stupid and I still love him very much... It's 4 yrs now and his son is one, it's very painful there's so much guilt in me but I just don't know how to walk away, he treats me like dirt shouts and talk to with me no respects.. He will only sees me now whenever he has free time and leaves after sex and I stayed faithful to him all these years...he claims that he n his wife are having alot of problems and he is staying because of his son and that he loves me very much... I'm in great pain I know I should leave him but I just can't do I love him too much... Does he really loves me? What can I do to help myself?
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reader, wish87  +, writes (18 October 2010):
leave him babe..no he doesnt love u..and i dnt think he loves his wife either..this man is playing both of u..and u both are feeding into it..u need to cut this man off..u say u luv him..but u dnt..u luv who u thought he was..not who he is.i know its hard to just walk away..but if you dont u will never truly be happy..this man has sex with you and then leaves to go home to his wife..come on now. you knw u arent valued as a woman or even a person when he does this..if you keep allowing him to treat u less of what u are..u are bound to lose yourself in the process...please get out of this..its whats best for you..you will never find love if your tied up with a jerk
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm very touched by the support and encouragement given to me and I would like to thank those that answer my questions...I really appreciate it
I did not stay at home to wait for him today I went out with my friends, it's going to be tough and very painful but I know I have to leave him I want to be happy again...
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (3 October 2010):
 No, he doesn't love you. What you love, you treat like gold, you sacrifice for. You've made many sacrifices for him and yet, he treats you like dirt, shouts at you and leaves you right after sex. If he loved you, he'd make time to see you and not come to you when he happens to have free time. If he loved you, it wouldn't be just sex. He cries and begs and says he loves you so you can stay with him. You have a good heart and he took advantage. You must leave him. There is a man out there who will treat you with love and respect and you won't find him if you stay with this man. Don't tell him you're leaving yet, he'll try to convince you to stay as before. When he calls, don't answer. Go out more, avoid staying home. When you feel strong enough, tell him and look/feel like you mean it. Keep it short and simple. Move away if you can, start new. Change your number so he can never, ever reach you. He does not deserve you. He never has and he never will. Don't sacrifice for him. Find a man who can give you a life.
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reader, activeplay +, writes (3 October 2010):
 I found out that my girlfriend of three years has been dating and living with another man. In fact i found out five days ago. She is gone and will forever be gone. He must go, and I say this because I firmly believe that once a cheater always a cheater. I know this isn't what you want to hear, I also know your trying to rule it out as if it never happened. But from experience, if you deal with the cold hard truth now, it will pass by quicker. Also don't go back and don't keep looking for hope that it will get better. It will always be on your mind if you go back to him. Smile at him and tell him "Now that I think of it, this is funny!" He will crawl back, but be ready for a psycho kind of guy.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 October 2010):
Ask yourself this - when you're fifty, do you want to be the woman who was left alone and just treated like dirt by a married man?
Because that's where you're heading at the moment. You will be the woman who has nothing if you don't just cut him out. All the decent guys will pass by, and by the time you realize you've wasted your life on this married man, you'll be tainted and no guy will want to know.
You have a choice. You can either be an important woman to a special guy, or you can just be invisible to everyone. It's time to wake up and stop letting yourself be treated like dirt. What a total waste of life.
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