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writes:[they continued to have sex in your face after you caught them?????????hard to believe? - other mods, what do you think??i'll leave this as it is, please pay attention at the detail I pointed]I'm 31, from the United Kingdom, and my husband's 33. We've got a 8-year-old son who has been diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome.I came back from a night out with friends last week (we were celebrating a friend's engagement!) to find my husband in bed with his best friend. I saw them in their boxer shorts kissing and cuddling IN OUR BED!!I was so outraged that I shouted at them but they just didn't seem to notice or care.I asked him what the hell he was doing, and he said "We're together now, you're not going to stop us!", then they got dressed and drove off. He admitted the whole thing had been going on even since we got engaged, and that he doesn't fancy any other men, just his best friend, and his best friend feels the same way.I feel so disgusted, and haven't seen them since. I've began overeating, bingeing on crisps, diet cola and chocolate, and have become worried about the whole thing.I haven't told my family about this, because I feel they would be shocked if they knew.I don't know what to do next, or where to go. A friend suggested counselling, but I'm not sure that would help.What can I do??Suzanne
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2008): Get a mentor. My mentor helped me through a suicidal time in my life.
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reader, katatonik  +, writes (1 December 2008):
 Even if he "only" fancies his best friend and not other men as well, it sounds as if your marriage is over. I don't think going to counseling with him would help with anything except perhaps making the split as amicable as possible (and that's going to be hard.) At any rate, no professional he sees can "counsel" him back into being straight and wanting a relationship with you and you only. It's not going to be easy, but I think you need to divorce this man and move on with your life. As "anon" pointed out, your primary concerns at this point should be your son's well-being and your own. Best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2008): girl. PULL yourself together!!! your son needs you. you husband has ran off with his friend. ok we can't control that but we can control that you are there for your son. you can't just break down when your husband leaves. you many women would but i know you are better than that!! YOU DON't need a man in your life to be a good mum. councillors will tell you the same as what i am bcos i'm studying at college in physchology and i mant to be a councillor or physchologist when i get my degree so i'm just as good as them!! main point is:
DON'T LET HIM RUIN YOUR LIFE. BE STRONG FOR YOUR SON. HE WILL THANK YOU IN LATER LIFE. it may sound stupid but a song might help you.
maybe hero by mariah carey or the x factor finalists version. it always cheers me up when i'm upset. i really do wish you the best!
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