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writes:A guy ive known for two years texted me to see how I am. We have had sex in the past and I know he doesn't want more from me because he as never took me out and as only got intouch when he wants sex. He texted me a week ago and I said when shall we meet for sex because i wanted sex with him and he didn't reply. So I was fed up with him and said he's dead to me. Another week later he asks how I am stupid me replies and I hear no more. What's he playing at. If I ask him he will probably ignore me. I like that he is thinking that of me to send a text but am I just a text buddy now to him.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (12 December 2015):
 Instead of actively seeking a man, why not pursue hobbies you enjoy or take up classes to learn a new skill? They can help you build confidence and you're more likely to meet someone with whom you have something in common outside a romantic atmosphere.
Something else you can do is reflect on some of you past conversations with men. Knowing how they ended if you could go back in time what might you have said or not said, done or not done earlier on?
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reader, Runaway Girl +, writes (7 December 2015):
Sorry, FWB and dating sites are a very bad mixture. Each person I met through dating sites were after one thing. Either money or sex. Each one I felt were using me as when I stripped back the relationship it was ALL about sex and that was the only time I see them.
Forget him and move on. Don't reply better still block him. he is maybe on many other sites and think of your sexual health. I relied on dating sites and so many many mistakes were made. I stopped looking and met someone who lived in my town and we had been passing each other for a couple of years.
Cancel the accounts and just be you someone will come along for all the right reasons
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2015): Any answers to this as i am the lady who wrote the problem
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2015): The truth is I have no confidence in myself and only seem to attract men who just want me for sex. I meet them on dating sites and I realise being on the free ones no one is serious about wanting a proper relationship and I cant afford the ones were you have to pay like match harmony etc.
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reader, Been there Now over it  +, writes (5 December 2015):
Two years and this is how far you've gotten with him. He is playing the field, probably sending out feelers to several different women when he gets the urge. Maybe he didn't reply because someone else who lives closer to him also replied back. Aidan is correct...he should value you much more, and you should require that he does. Forget this guy and move on.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (5 December 2015):
I’m afraid Ciar’s right. Maybe he doesn’t want sex just yet but just wants to keep you sweet for when he does. Perhaps he was just fantasising about you and thought he’d send a text because that felt good to him. Whatever the case, don’t kid yourself that this is because he cares about you. He’s thinking of you, yes, but only in terms of what he can get from you, not out of concern for how you are or about making a gesture of kindness. Whether a sex buddy or text buddy, aren’t you worth more than this?
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Ciar +, writes (4 December 2015):
That's all you ever were to him, I'm afraid. I don't know why you ever thought there was anything more.
You are a means to an end so he's not phased by your moods one way or another, in so far as they don't interfere with what he wants.
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