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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half in May. We are around the same age, he is a year younger than me. We have only had one or two fights in the whole relationship and neither of them were bad at all. I recently was forced to breakup with him due to my parent's request/force.I had a talk with them about his behavior, recently he confronted my parents about an issue he had. That rubbed them the wrong way therefore talking to me about him and forcing some boundaries between us. By the end of the talk, my mom directly asked me if we were having sex. I couldn't lie and the answer was yes. This is where the bomb exploded. They were furious and worried that I was forced into it. My dad went over my BF's house and confronted his parents about it, and it almost ended in a fist fight!My BF and I are still in love. And I am willing to look past any flaws we might have because it has always been a great relationship until now.Right now we are trying to move on, as hard as it may be. I have three courses in college with him.Do you think this was the right decision on my part? What should I do about the classes? Do you think it is possible for us to have a future together?Scared and confused. XX
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (4 April 2016):
 I have to say either your parents are overreacting or you are not telling the whole story.
To be frank, as a parent I would NOT appreciate any of my daughters to bring home a BF who decides to confront me.
Now you never explained WHAT he confronted your parents on, but my guess is... it wasn't his job or business to confront your parents.
And my second guess is, that they didn't know the extend of your relationship with him either. I mean if you two were dating for 17 months, how is it SUCH a big surprise that it has gotten sexual?
Is there some cultural aspect in here that you also don't mention?
Overall it makes no sense for them to FORCE you (if you are over 18) to end the relationship given the story you tell in your post.
However, you live under their roof, so.. their rules.
As for the classes you share, well you are not in class to BE with your BF, but there to learn, so try your best to do your classes with the least amount of contact. It might not be easy, but I can't see what else choice you have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2016): Hi love, I think if you love him fight for him that's what I did when my parents tried to force me to break up with my boyfriend and noa we are getting married! Your parents just want to see you happy and safe so endure them that is what you are x
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