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writes:i have been seeing with a widower for two years, his wife sadly passed away three years ago december. He has three grown up children, but i am unsure that he has told them about me, he spends alot of time with me and my children (young), the pressure some of his family and friends cause ie: she wont ever be accepted, she will always be a secret etc, etc..he said that he doesn't want any ties, we will never settle down or get married...shall i give up???? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2010): "he said that he doesn't want any ties, we will never settle down or get married"
I think that says it all. He can't or won't give you what you want. You got together with him when he was still probably grieving for his wife. A year isn't much time to get over something like that and you could be a rebound.
Maybe he got with you to ease his loneliness and he could have just wanted companionship, which i can't blame him for but it's still not fair on you.
You are going to either have to accept that you'll always be a secret or end it.
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reader, Sissy 1992  +, writes (22 November 2010):
 Dont give up hope! Calmly Talk to him about his family and ask him why you havent met them yet.
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