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writes:Recently I confronted my husband, of 13 years, with some postings I found on a local escort type review forum. The postings gave me the impression he had been visiting Asian Massage Palours as well as visiting escorts.He says that he made up the reviews based on what he read on other sites. He says that on alot of these sites, you have to post reviews in order to get free access. He says he was doing as part of the whole "fantasy" thing. Our relationship has been a little rocky for a while and he has certainly been dissappointed in our sex life for some time. I know his self-esteem has taken a hit lately and he's been visiting more porn sites as part of his "fantasy" thing.So, could he be telling me the truth? Do the review sites work that way? Do you men really posture to each other on these sites?Please, if you do not have real experience or a mature, supportive view on this, do not reply. I don't need to be told my husband is a loser...you don't know him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2012): Look, I am an escort.. I see many married men and they all say its because they don't have sex anymore or there not happy or its diffrent since they have had children I don't mean to say this but I honestly think hr is lying to you :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2009): Does he treat you well?If yes, let him have his fun. He's probably just not into you any longer, but he's willing to be discreet in fullfilling his physical needs.If no, then you should re-evaluate your relationship based on this, not if-he-is-or-is-not-cheating. Ultimately, you're fueling your own fire here anyway -- no matter which way you look at it, you're not going to like the answer you're searching so badly for. Keep yourself mentally strong and prepared for the need to share your life with someone else, protect your assets, guard your heart a bit. But otherwise... just let go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2009): You should go to www.spectrosoft.com and download the program to monitor his use on the computer. I did that with my ex and found ALOT of stuff I would have never known about his life and who he really was. Good luck to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2009): I would keep my eyes wide open. I just found out about a month ago that my husband of 12 years 4 kids later, has been sleeping with escorts/hookers for almost three years. I feel like a complete fool not seeing any of this. We have our own bussiness together and I never would have geussed that his was going on.I found out through all of this that he was sexually abused as a child which is why he was acting out in this matter, but beleive me it still does not make this any easier to get over the fact that he was with over 40 women. I see no reason why anyone married or not should be on these websites or porn sites. You need to set some rules and make sure that he is not doing anything more than what he is telling you. Good luck and I really hope all works out for the best.
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reader, Be Aware  +, writes (8 November 2009):
I would keep my eyes wide open. I just found out about a month ago that my husband of 12 years 4 kids later, has been sleeping with escorts/hookers for almost three years. I feel like a complete fool not seeing any of this. We have our own bussiness together and I never would have guessed that his was going on.I found out through all of this that he was sexually abused as a child which is why he was acting out in this matter, but beleive me it still does not make this any easier to get over the fact that he was with over 40 women. I see no reason why anyone married or not should be on these websites or porn sites. You need to set some rules and make sure that he is not doing anything more than what he is telling you. Good luck and I really hope all works out for the best.
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reader, DESTINY 23 +, writes (20 October 2009):
 your in denial .. so what if your husband is nice and a good man hes cheating on you and you dont want to even listen to people telling you what you know is the truth. Men lie and they lie about having sex with other women because its called cheating and he doesnt want to hurt you . A lot of pretty sexy girls work that kind of bussiness and maybe hes likes that type of girl . Maybe there doing things you and him dont do. My point is your asking people to help you understand whats going on and you dont like what your hearing. If any guy is posting commnets on a site its called a review that means hes seen the girl. Leave him before you get something
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009): Please, if you do not have real experience or a mature, supportive view on this, do not reply. I don't need to be told my husband is a loser...you don't know him." i really think you shouldn't have written this. is you really wanted advice and to get to the bottom of your hb's pastime, you should open yourself to all advise. the aunts her would have even supported you in your desperate attempot to get to the bottom of his behaviour. your hb is not a loser but maybe he is playing away with escorts. if there has been problems in the bedroom and if he has been unsatisfied with you then i think it is a safe bet to say that he is finding external stimulation. as for porn , please do not discard the addiction to it.
realistically, you can only give a review once you have experienced something. don't know your hb but know this, where there is smoke there is fire. i have been married long enough to realise this. you know your hb , so set a trap and discover his true pasttime. you will be surprised to find out what he has been playing with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThere haven't been any cash withdrawals from the checking account (i do all the bills), nor have there been any credit card charges. As I said, I handle all the money and I know exactly how much he gets a week. It would take him weeks to save up for an AMP experience and even longer for an escort.
You are right, I do not entirely trust him. I have a hard time believing he would visit a review site and make stuff up. But then again, I don't see the attraction or porn or masturbation either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009): Hard to say from what you've said. Yes, some forum's do reward reviews with free access. But for the reviews to be posted, they usually have to include certain info. If this is all fantasy, how does he know he's including the right info. On the other hand, some forums simply require you to register with an email for full access and that's it.
Is he posting reviews? Is he posting messages on a message board? Is he doing both? For some guys it can be fantasy, curiosity, etc. It would just depend on how involved is he. Most guys who do this keep the same username on the various websites. Try googling it by itself or with the word "escort"....anything come up?
Boards alone don't mean anything. Have you noticed any difference in his behavior? Has he been staying late at the office lately? When he comes home does he smell like he's freshly showered? Is there a way for you to track his spending or does he have private funds you don't know about? Has he made phone calls that you don't recognize the number? Have you come across a pre-paid phone that you don't know about? If he used to ask you for sex all the time, has he stopped?
Men will visit these amp's or escorts for many reasons. Being on those message boards/review sites doesn't mean anything...yet. best.
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