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female
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30-35,
*unkyfairy121
writes:I have this major problem with a guy at my work. I have never met someone who is so easy to talk to and we have really in depth conversations, he's like my best friend. Of course, naturally I developed a crush on him, although now I would describe it as far more than that. Its been about a year and I am completely in love with him. He often suggests that I am his perfect girl and that he loves me too, however there is one thing..he has a sort of girlfriend. I know that after reading that last line everyone will jump to conclusions, but let me fill you in first. He is 21, and his girlfirend is 16. He knows that both their parents would flip if they found out so they keep it an absolute secret. He never sees her, last time he did was may of last year, and they just keep in contact by texting occassionally, infact he describes her as like an imaginary friend who texts back. He has had every opportunity to see her, she only lives 5 minutes away and now she has finished school and her parents are out all day he easilly could but he thinks it would be really akward and uncomfortable. it makes no sense. he says that he is confident to text her, but is totally nervous and shy to talk to her in person. he has told me that he often forgets that she exists as a real person and he doesn't see her that way. he says he loves her but he can be quite immature, and I dont think he really understands that you cant be with someone you can't talk to in real life. its like an imaginary game, or something from a virtual world. anyway, I am stuck in the middle. i know he likes me, he often strokes my face and looks into my eyes and then you can see his face cloud over when he remembers. but its like shes stuck on him. she has an extrardinary hold over him, she is always texting him teling him to behave himself and not forget that he is hopelessly devoted to her. and he just rubs is head like he has a headache and sighs. there is no escape for him though, he has tried to break up with her but she somehow worms her way back into his life and he doesn't stop her. she's like his comfort blanket. I love him and it is so so painful to see him suffering and not be able to show him that I love him and he doesn't need her anymore. what can I do?
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