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writes:Thanks for your advice Stina. I am carefully considering it and how best to be sure not to lose control of the situation. I have had two more sessions with my "old friend" and my wife -- first an evening of drinks at our place and then a casual dinner out followed by coffee and liquers at our home. That night in bed after he left, my wife agreed readily to having sex with him and suggested that I arrange something for her to consider. I'm not having second thoughts about the ultimate deed but I do have some concern that maybe the sudden change in my wife's attitude might not be entirely good. Any further advice Stina or anyone about how to be sure I don't lose her (other than forgetting the whole thing -- pun intended).
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reader, subway72  +, writes (21 May 2013):
I did the same as you. The first time made me Horney as ...seeing that I made love to her afterwards. It was great. I didn't know till years later that she slept with him a few times behind my back. Then the second guy a year later now that was awesome. It happened over 30 times even sent me pics. Really a lot of fun for both of us. A year or so later she got with a younger guy. At first all good then she had a 6 month affair. Almost divorced. Her attitude went to real bad with me. She fell in love. All I can say is be very careful because she is only human and it can go bad fast. Would I let her again. Its been 2 years now and yes I would. Lots of fun if you keep it that way
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2008): this is something about spoiling a woman after marrying her by the person who takes a woe to protect her throughout his life in future from the dicks around and how strange it is that the same person wants the strangeand unknown man to fuk his wife in his presence to satisfy his wild fantasy
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2007): i think you should go for it if the idea turns you on. I have been talking about the same idea with my bf, i told him i want to see him have sex with one of his girl friends. Since i am his first time, and we've been dating for 4 years so i want him to enjoy another girl with my permission (since i've slept with few guys before dating him)because i love him so much that i want him to enjoy it and be happy. so go for it, your wife would be happy if you let her try something new. i know i would be if my bf lets me have sex with a friend :) goodluck! will let you know how it turns out about my bf and his friend.
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reader, la_ca_man101 +, writes (3 December 2007):
All comments are fine, but how about more concepts to get the wife to have sex with other men?
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reader, neelnnicky  +, writes (28 November 2007):
Hi
Its not that difficult. If both of you drink, then its a piece of cake. You know what happens when you are drunk with another man or a couple.
Secondly, First you observe what your wife likes or enjoys doing. like Ask her to wear short clothes and go to shopping malls, let her wear some deep neck dresses, keep praising her whenever she does anything in your way. Tell her you love her very much or looks very sexy when she wears such dress etc..
When she feels comfortable with the idea of showing off, Let the other man come in to the scene and ask to wear something sexy so that you both can tease him etc. If that works out, If she is wearing a micro mini or something, caress her thies not intentionally just like that in your friend's presence.
You should take it slowly than hurrying it up. She should enjoy what she is doing. Tease her to dance with you in his presense, kiss her passionately, Know when she is hot, and offer ur friend to take over.
And slowly things do work out.
Don't hurt her or her sentiments at any point.
Rest will be taken care automatically.
Love
Neel.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (16 November 2007):
 Anytime you bring someone else into your bed, consenting or not, you are violating the intentions of a marriage bone and that is to "forsake all others". You can slice it, spin it and play it anyway you want but you are still entering into an area that was not intended for the marital bond. But that's okay, I don't suspect you'll be married for much longer anyhow, and then you can both sleep with whomever you want without guilt, consent or backlash. Have fun and good luck.
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reader, crowley  +, writes (12 November 2007):
well i have been there and done that.
I had no objection to my wife sleeping with another man either. For me i got a huge amount of enjoyment out of seeing the pleasure it brought to her.
My ONE word on this is jealousy, please make sure you can deal with it, because you dont want regrets after, you wont be able to blame your wife for doing it if you have second thoughts after. If you show her any sign that you are not comfortable with it it will cause you so much heartache, the both of you.
If you can do it, then make sure you have rules, what is acceptable and what is not, things like is this guy only allowed to turn up when you invite him? do you have to be there? those sorts of things, so that if things go too far, you can turn round and say NO, we agreed to.....
My wife actually suprised me and took a woman to bed with me, something we had never really discussed, my thoughts were always on her pleasure with another guy, and she had never mentioned any lesbian feelings.
The best moments? waking up with them both, and coming in from work to find them curled up in bed together.
Either way you have to go into it with no regrets otherwise someone will get hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): I assume you know your playing with fire. Strange things can happen by bringing another person especially a friend in for sexual fun. My wife and I had sex with her best friend. Her friend wanted to have sex just with me and this started causing problems for my wife and me. Her friend denied that she was making any moves on me, but my wife knew better. Needless to say our long friendship is over. Its really ashame, she was a wonderful friend for years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): HI! First off I would like to know why you would want to pass your wife around like some whore. Is it just so you can get your rocks off with other women? Guess,You are what One calls a Whoremaster. I would have more respect for a woman who uses her body to feed her family, then I would for you.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (9 November 2007):
 "maybe the sudden change in my wife's attitude might not be entirely good" ya think? I think the whole idea is very risky Kenny. One way to make sure you don't lose her is to forget the threesome and go buy some edible underwear or something.
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reader, KennyJohnes +, writes (9 November 2007):
KennyJohnes is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFor anyone serious about offerring helpful advice consistent with my request, the original details can be found at my question posted October 15.
Basschick, although your comment is not helpful, you should consider that it's not "cheating" if there is consent.
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reader, Basschick +, writes (9 November 2007):
Wow, that's pretty amazing! A guy who will actually give his wife permission to cheat on him while he watches and participates. What a deal!
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