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writes:I want to hear from someone who is really up on social situations, getting along in the social world, making new friends, etc.We are not originally from the community, but we have lived in the community (a small community) for eleven years. (When I say that we are not originally from the community, I don't mean we are total strangers. We were both brought up in neighboring towns of this community. I went to the same high school as people around my age in the community.) It is a friendly community. Everyone is nice and friendly at community events. But aside from that, everyone has his/her own group that they belong to and get together with outside of community events. My husband and I have four children and have always been busy with them as they are all still in grade school. They are getting bigger, and we would really like to join and and feel a part of things more than we are. How could we go about joining in a new group? We know everyone; everyone knows us. I recently joined a local ladies club in the community. Everyone is friendly, but again everyone still has his/her own group that they get together with. (same groups mentioned above) Is it impossible to interrupt or join in a group that has been together for years and years and years? There is a local dinner/dance coming up in February. Lots of community people will be there. People usually go in groups. Should my husband and I go? How do we go about it? How do we join in or fit in? Do we sit by outselves at a table? Do we join another group out of the blue? I feel a little uncomfortable about going by ourselves, since people usually go in groups. I feel a little ridiculous asking someone if we can sit at their table. But I think we are planning to go. What is the best way to do it? Do we just stand around looking lost, letting people notice that we don't really have a group to hang out with? Do we act really bold and say, "Hey, can we join your group?" Do we just try to be friendly and don't worry about joining another group unless we are asked? We are both friendly people and well-liked. SOmetimes I still feel that people do not want their groups interrupted, though. What do you think? I would really appreciate any advice, tips on how to fit into a social group, outing, get-together. If we are wanting to join a certain group, how do we go about it? Again, I want to hear from someone who is really up on social situations. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2011): Hi
I know you really want to hear from people who are up on the social situations etc.... but You just really need to know one thing...just be yourselves and hopefully you will be excepted, i would make no great scene to introduce yourselves. Just go as a couple and mingle say hello and enjoy yourselves. Like will attract like and new friendships may start to develop. If you find that you both are not made to feel welcome then don't push it.
I would not make it so choreographed...just let it roll.
I am not one for all this and find such things clicky but that is just my opinion.
Spunky monkey.
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