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writes:i met my current partner 10 years ago have a beautiful 8 year old girl and are very happy, about 2 years into relationship i began to talk to his brother in law and chemistry built with us and has ever since. we all go out 2 gether every weekend me and brother in law flirt when we can or get chance to. im so in love with my partner tho, he is great in every way, such a gentle man and great dad to my daughter and i do want to marry him next year, so recently broke the news to brother in law at a recent party that a date has been set for my wedding and partners he cried, and told me he loved me and wanted to be with me what could we do, but yet before all this was said when he flirted with me he said its only a bit of harmless fun!??? now i have been up and down for 8 years with emotions on how i should be feeling towards him and tried everythin to keep away and not look at him just cant happen, we are physicaly attracted to one anouther, we shared one kiss and seemes like were longing for more, he tho is so close to my partner and i am to his wife and children please help what should i do for the best whats happening can i be in love with 2 people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2011): if you cross the line with your brother in law you will destroy lives. is this what you want? a family in turmoil.
no amount of lust and sex can justify breaking up a family unit. do not even contemplate having an affair with this married man. you are friends with his wife and basically if you betray your hb and his wife, what really would you have become? a homewrecker?
cut off ties with this man. try not to be alone with him. do you want to see your kids lives destroyed? do you want to be known as the @itch who destroyed everything? keep this in mind if you contemplate anymore with this man. he is your hbs brother for goodness sake. ENOUGH SAID.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2011): You have a family. Your priorities lie with them now, not yourself.
You must ignore ANY future communications between you and this 'brother' save for those where family is involved.
You must come clean NOW about the kiss. It was wrong. You must talk to someone, preferrably your husband about how you are feeling now.
Before he decides if you are to be married, then he needs to know of your doubts and feelings NOW. Before it all comes out later on when it's too late.
Tell this brother that you appreciate his attention, but he is not to do so again. Ever. Tell him you will now show any affection towards him, no little chats.
Delete him from your mobile. Delete him from your Facebook profile.
No contact at all. None. Save for family gatherings. Then only a polite hello. Nothing more.
You are standing on a knife-edge over raging volcano here. Stray even an inch and you plummet. You profess to love your fiance, then prove it. Choose him. And ONLY him.
Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2011): Yes, you can be in love with more than one persod; it's called polyamory.
Google it and read of the experiences of others, too....
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