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writes:I tried sex for the first time I really like the guy and I really did want it, but when it came to it, it didn't feel good.First he wouldn't fit into me, then he started touching me which I barely felt and when he was finally inside me I didn't feel much and he slipped out a few times. Honestly I've felt more aroused (and pleasure) before with other guys without actually having sex. It was unpleasant for both of us and I am just afraid there is something wrong with me or if he was too big for me or whatAdvice to avoid this in the future is really appreciated Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2017): I don't mean to be rude, but your writing is not very clear. Was this your first time having sex ever or just with this guy? It's an important difference.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2017): Hey guys, thanks for your answers they were helpful. You are absolutely right
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reader, Darshan  +, writes (28 July 2017):
 Here is rule of sex pleasure. Foreplay is more enjoyable then intercourse. What you wrote about what you feel is honestly true, and it give me impression that You are more sensible, more intelligible then average around you. There is one formulation in sex....That sex organ are sits of sex pleasure, means arousal is pleasure, but in intercourse, which is not about arousal but about freeing oneself from arousal. Post sexual intercourse is very dull moments for both, so better policy is have good foreplay, with calculated arousal, not more then and not less then. If arousal of sex organ lead you both to the point of intercourse, then you both will face fatigue...which is not good point, it is ok with regular normal sex life for husband and wife, but not for lovers who seek to feel intimacy and familiarity.
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reader, Phil052  +, writes (26 July 2017):
 Don't worry too much! Try again. Hopefully things will improve once you have got to know each other's desires and needs better. The key is communication.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (26 July 2017):
 Sorry it wasn't great for you. It is quite common for the first time to be a bit of a disaster. The secret, if there is any, is for the man to take his time and give you lots of foreplay. Men come to the boil quite quickly, unless they are nervous. Women need more time.
You will find a lot of information on the internet about this. There are dozens of books and probably a few online lectures - I haven't looked.
Just keep in mind that you and your partner have to work together to make it a pleasurable experience for you both.
From a man's point of view he should make sure his partner is being satisfied before he thinks about climaxing. It won't always work but if he comes too soon he shouldn't forget the needs of the woman. A sense of humour can diffuse any sense of failure or mistiming.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (26 July 2017):
 Noting is wrong with you. You just lacked sexual chemistry with this particular guy. Sometimes it happens, and it can be difficult to tell in advance whether or not someone will match you sexually. It's all about how well your bodies match, really, and nothing wrong with either of you.
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