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writes:Hi I am 21 years old. Tomorrrow, me and my girlfriend are going to have sex for the 1st time in our 2 and a half years relationship. So here are a few questions I want help with from experienced people:1. How hard or gentle should I be with her during intercourse? Will going down on her help it to be less painful for her?2. What kind of condom will be most protective in terms of getting rid of pragnancy(i.e it wont get torn) and giving me more eraction time? And do I need to give her contraceptive pill as well? If so, which one and what is the dosage timing and function of the pill?3. Lastly I want to know about the side affects of her hymen breaking in terms of pain and bleeding. Will the pain cause a change in her walk? And how long will it remain and be a distraction for her?She and i both are ready for sex now and I want it to go very protective and smooth.Thankyou so much for taking time to read. I request you to take a little more time to answer as well :)
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reader, i cant stop  +, writes (26 March 2010):
1. if she wants hard go hard if she wants it soft gsoft but just remember deep and slow and cemi deep and fast. in my opion trojan condoms are the best. and when you break her hyman dont worry there may not evan be blood if there is she will bearly feel it if she screams its just the feeling you dick that area hasen't expereced stereching like that before
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reader, LethalInjection-x  +, writes (25 March 2010):
 Firstly, I think it's fantastic that you've waited so long for each other. Also, that you've been considerate enough to have a look for some helpful information.
I'm assuming your girlfriend is a virgin by the way.
Seeing as it's her first time, you'll need to take it very slowly. Foreplay is vital, and lots of it. She needs to be relaxed and enjoying herself in order to be ready for sex, if she's too nervous, her body may not allow you to have sex at all.
Oral sex is a great form of foreplay, and this will definitely make the process easier. It will also help with "lubrication". Which is my second point. To ease the process, it's important there is plenty of lubrication, be it something you've purchased or your own via oral sex. DO NOT used oil based lubricant with a condom, always use water based stuff.
All condoms are tested enough so to ensure the chances of them being torn are VERY small. The only thing to remember is to put the condom on correctly, this will stop it tearing.
Condoms should be enough protection. If you're both still worried about pregnancy however, it's your girlfriend and her doctors responsibility to sort out a contraceptive pill for her, as this is prescription based.
If she is really relaxed and ready for sex, it may not hurt all that much. There is VERY minimal (if any) blood from the breaking of a hymen, so little that you probably won't even notice. It could hurt her quite a bit though, so make sure she feels comfortable, and keep an eye on her reactions to what you're doing (it sounds stupid I know, but she may feel silly expressing herself if it hurts too much etc)
If it DOES hurt, the pain should only continue for a few hours, maybe a day at the most, and it wouldn't be very bad, so it's nothing to worry about too much.
Don't expect your first time to be glamorous, really fun, or to feel great. It's probably going to be awkward, possibly painful, and not very sexy at all.. But it's important to have a good sense of humour, patience, and be willing to take your time - you'll gradually build a great sex life from there.
I hope that helps :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2010): Wow...you sure have a lot of questions...I'll try to answer as many of them as possible the best that I can.
1. Sexual intercourse will likely be painful for her the first time and even the next few times to follow. It's also possible that she won't feel any pain at all. You should definitely be gentle with her. Enter her carefully and slowly and as she gets used to it, you can increase in speed. Going down on her won't necessarily make it less painful for her, but it may help! By going down on her first, you might help her relax. By being relaxed, her muscles won't be as contracted and entry will be easier and possibly less painful. Also, by going down on her first, she will become more naturally lubricated which will decrease friction and make it less painful and easier entry once again.
2. Your best bet is to use a latex condom assuming neither of you have a latex allergy. You might want to choose a brand like "naked sensations" which makes it feel like the condom is not there. A lot of men complain that regular condoms decrease the intensity and feeling of sex. Just a side note - do practice putting on a condom properly before hand...you don't want to mess that up! Since it is your first time, chances are you won't last long despite the condom you use. With that said, however, there are condoms that make you "last longer" just read the labels.
Having your partner on the pill is always a plus. However, the pill isn't just something you take the day you want to have sex and it suddenly becomes effective. You need to be on the pill for a certain period of time first. For some pills it's one to two weeks...others it's one to three months. As far as the brand and dosing is concerned, a doctor will decide that.
3. As for the hymen...well, there is a possibility that she has already broken it! It can break in girls that are active, use tampons, horseback ride, gymnasts, girls that masturbate etc. if she hasn't broken it yet, chances are that you will. For some girls it is a little painful, other girls won't even notice. Bleeding is not a guarantee. If it does bleed, it will only be a small amount...nothing frightening. The pain might last a day or two depending on her. I guess it's possible, but unlikely that it'll be significant enough to change her walk. She'll be okay and the more times you two are intimate the easier and less painful it will become...eventually, she'll experience nothing but sheer pleasure from intercourse.
Hope that helps. Good luck, and be safe :)
Just remember that sex for the first time isn't necessarily as glamorous as it might seem. It can be messy and awkward. Since you two love each other, it'll be a lot easier and you two can learn together!
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reader, TimmD +, writes (25 March 2010):
 Well, I'll let the women on the board handle the female type questions. As far as the other stuff goes? I'll tell you this right now.... you're going to be so nervous, excited, and even scared that your first time will be anything but smooth. You can't worry about how long you'll last or how good you'll be because you won't be able to control that yet. That comes with experience from not just having sex in general, but sex with a particular partner.
Just relax, and enjoy your time together. It's great that you are both making your first time with eachother. That's rare these days. And as far as condoms go... as long as neither of you are allergic to latex just get some regular, lubricated Trojans. Knowing what condoms you like and she likes also comes with experience so don't go too crazy deciding.
Have fun and good luck to both of you.
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