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writes:first she loves me... then she hates meA quick introduction. - I have been told that I'm very good looking- I've never kissed before (although I have come close)- I'm shy around girls, unless I know them well- I have good, kind-hearted personality and would never wish to hurt anyoneSo here's the story...I went on a youth movement camp for 3 weeks last year. I met this girl(girl no. 1) who became very attached to me and my friends(boys)She is very comfortable around boys and seems to crave love and attention from boys. However with me, she went a step further. She would always complement me(beautiful voice, soft hair, beautiful eyes etc.) and always demand my attention more than anyone else. I could never give her all the attention she needed and didn't pay as much attention to her as my friends.At the end of the second week, she asked if we could go to my tent on our own during dinner. I declined for 2 reasons. 1.) I didn't have much romantic interest in her. 2.) I was scared and nervous.Then I met this girl(girl no. 2) who had I feelings for. We would talk and spend time together in my cabin, and I would try to be there for her. The problem is I could never feel close to her. Even though we loved each other, I could never feel myself getting to close to her. Girl no.1 knew that i loved Girl no.2 She was upset about this and tried to discourage me from getting to close. So when it came time to go home, we said goodbye and girl no.2 is out of the picture.When we got back. I SMS'd her(girl no. 1) on New Years and she replied and said that she misses me. We kept this up(about 1 message every 2 days). We then decided to go to movies with friends of mine(different people from the original boys that she was also attached to) and hers. Then she went with another girl to the toilet and the rest of us were waiting for her on a bench. When she came back she climbed on me(a bit like the missionary position)in full view of the public and started staring at me. I couldn't do anything but smile. After all we were in public place.4 days later I sent her a friendly SMS. She didn't reply. A day later, getting worried, I sent another friendly message with the words "heya bbz" and "luv ya". Nothing really wrong. She didn't reply. Then today a friend of hers told me on FB that i'm send her wierd SMSes and she doesn't like me and she's f*ck scared of me(according to him). First i thought he was playing a joke, but then he started quoting my SMSes and i knew that she must have spoken to him about it.I told him to tell her that shes mistaken her conclusion and that they're just friendly messages and to tell her that i'm sorry. And i only sent the message with bbz and luv ya coz i was getting worried.I really don't know why she's acting like this and I really don't know what to do. I suddenly don't want to talk to her anymore. And all in 2 days. And I didn't do anything bad to her. Please could somebody help me. I don't want to be in a relationship with her, I just want to be friends again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2009): hi. you absolutely need to call/talk (whichever one is better for you) this girl an straighten out the problem. don't sound like you are coming on too strong and at the same time be friendly. At the end of the conversation make sure she knows your intentions and you know hers. Explain yourself properly. Girls are complicated. think about what you will tell her before you talk to her. I hope things work out the way you want them too. :) hope i helped- miri
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