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writes:Hi everyone :)You're probably going to think this is a stupid question but Im in love for the first time and im so so happy. But sometimes I feel a bit too happy and then i get freaked out because im so young (only 18) and i'll be going to uni soon etc. Also i dont want to be the kind of person thats ok happy when they're with their boyfriend and they cant have their own life (not that im like that - i just dont want to become like that!) It sounds cliched but i have so many emotions rushing about and i dont know how to handle this! help please? Reply to this Question
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (15 December 2012):
This flood of overwhelming emotion that you describe is perfectly normal when you first fall in love with some-one, enjoy it while it lasts. Eventually things calm down and you realise that your relationship is based not just on those butterfly feelings but a deep love and friendship. Make sure you continue devoting time to spend with family, friends and other important people in your life and that you take time to spend on the things you enjoy. If you do that you’ll not get too used to spending every moment with him or distance yourself from everything else. This will help you especially if you go to study and end up separated from him. Of course there are so many ways to keep in contact nowadays and if you do find yourself missing him that’s normal and okay, don’t put yourself under so much pressure to be able to have a life of your own that you end up distancing yourself from him. With an attitude as healthy as yours these things will just work out. Don’t obsess too much about planning how you will achieve this balance. Recognising its importance is really the key and you’ve got that already.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Myau  +, writes (12 December 2012):
 Just slow yourself down, enjoy it. Spend time with him, but don't neglect your friends.
You will be fine
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