First date with her. Did I do anything wrong?

A male age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Okay.. so last week I went out with this new girl I met at the beginning of this month.. and we went bar and club hopping, had some drinks, got drunk, and just had a really good time. We did kiss on a few different occasions throughout the night, held hands, hugged, got really close, and all that. We had also made some plans to get together with a few other people in the near future, she mentioned she wanted to start coming to some of the parties my friends and I have on a weekly basis, going to a concert together this Sunday evening, etc.. but that was all before we got really drunk. After we had quite a few drinks is the part of the night I'm worried about. I had mentioned to her that I really liked her and wanted to start hanging out on a more regular basis. She mentioned that people don't usually get like a once a week thing out of her or anything like that, but that she was enjoying being with me. She also said that she doesn't really go out on dates, but was definitely having fun with me and wouldn't mind getting together again.. so I thought that was a good thing. Both of us just coming out of serious relationships back towards the middle of this year, she had said that she wasn't ready for another boyfriend yet. I let her know that was perfectly fine with me, just as long as she was working on getting over her past relationship, to which she said she was. So towards the end of the night we go to grab something to eat, and while talking she leans into me, I put my arm around her, and she basically falls asleep. I whispered into her ear that I had a really good time tonight and that I really liked her, and she smiled and said she did too and didn't know why I liked her. I then told her that I would definitely wait for her to be ready to move on from her previous relationship, and she smiled, and I kissed her ear. So we leave.. and I'm taking her back to her apartment, when we realize we had lost her house key somewhere. So I mentioned worse case scenario she can come back to my apartment and crash till the morning.. I'll take the couch she can have the bed, or whatever. Well we ended up being able to get her into her apartment, so I ask her if she minds if I come in and sit down for a few minutes before driving again, and she said that it probably wasn't a good idea because she was about to pass out, so I said okay. So she walked into her apartment.. but before closing the door came back out, we hugged, kissed, and said goodnight.. and I told her I'd call her when I got home because she knew I was not in the state to be driving.. but had to get home somehow. (And yes.. I know.. very stupid move to drive..) So I get back to my car and give her a quick call to make sure everything is okay.. she answers and mumbles something I didn't understand.. and I tell her I'll call her back when I get home, and we hang up. So I call when I get home.. no answer.. I assume she's sleeping and leave a voicemail, pretty much reiterating everything I had previously said to her when I was drunk.. I still wasn't thinking clearly or about what I was saying. I send her a text the next morning.. no response. I actually ended up finding her house key in my car the next day on the floor.. let her know through voicemail.. still haven't heard from her. It's now Wednesday evening.. I've tried calling her one more time since the voicemail about her key, and sent her another text message inviting her out with a group of friends. So here's my concern.. did I make a mistake on the date by the things I said to this girl? I'd really like to see her again, go out again without drinks involved this time, and see if there's still something there.. because there definitely was last time. So I'm looking for advice.. what should I do? How often should I try and get a hold of her through either texts or calls? When do I finally assume I'm not going to hear from her, and should I take her key to where she works.. because I don't ethically think I should keep it. I'm looking for anything and everything here.. advice on what to do with the situation I'm presented with, advice on how to rectify things if I screwed up, advice on how to get sort of like a "redo" or whatever.. anything. Thanks for reading this and for taking the time to respond.. it's greatly appreciated.

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