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writes:First date went well.... no call back?I All,I met this guy online and we got on really well when we spoke over the phone. He asked me if I'd like to meet him and we agreed to meet up for some drinks on Saturday. The date went well, we had lots in common and talked throughout the whole date. We both made eachother laugh and neithe rof us seemed bored. He bought the first round of drinks, after which I offered to buy the second and he said "yeh if you'd like one too thanks". Anyway once the date ended he walked me to my car and we both we both said we had a nice time. He said he'd get in touch with me, and I told him "sure give me a call sometime". Then we waved in our cars and drove away. That night he sent me a text message saying" hey u, hope you have a good time at your neices party, and don't forget to lock your car doors (as I forgot to do that on my date)". It's now Tuesday and he hasn;t been in touch. Should I assume that he's just not interested and move on? Confused!
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reader, katatonik  +, writes (4 December 2008):
 If he wasn't interested in seeing you again I don't think he would even extend the offer =] Good luck
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reader, skygirl123 +, writes (4 December 2008):
skygirl123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHI All,I sent him a quick "Hi hows things" text on Wednesday. He replied about an hour later telling me how bucy he was with work and stuff and how my week was. I sent him a reply telling him abit about my week. He did respond but a couple of hours later telling me about how he was off to play badminton and what my plans were for this weekend. I text him the next day (today), to keep him hanging abit. He sent me a reply, again hours after, saying" I was thinking of heading to Birmingham on Sunday afternoon of u wanna hook up? its just a thought at the mo as I dunno wots happening @ home so dont go rearranging any plans :-0."Not sure what to make of this? Is he actually interested, if he is wouldnt he be making definate plans? Or os he just trying to play it cool?Thanks for your advice! xx
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (3 December 2008):
 Just wait it out. If he said he'll call you he'll call you. Guys want to come off as strong and not desperate so some pull away for a few days to make sure you're still a chase.Its a total toughguy move but that's what some do. He will call you, if you really like him please wait it out and live your own life till then.If he didn't like you and said he'll call you just so you think he's a nice guy then he's a cowardly ass:). Be very careful with him when he does call. Now you know that's what he does so expect that if the relationship is to evolve intimately he probably will disappear after that too - i hope i'm wrong for your sakeGood Luck sweetie:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2008): Just wait it out. If he said he'll call you he'll call you. Guys want to come off as strong and not desperate so some pull away for a few days to make sure you're still a chase.Its a total toughguy move but that's what some do. He will call you, if you really like him please wait it out and live your own life till then.If he didn't like you and said he'll call you just so you think he's a nice guy then he's a cowardly ass:). Be very careful with him when he does call. Now you know that's what he does so expect that if the relationship is to evolve intimately he probably will disappear after that too - i hope i'm wrong for your sakeGood Luck sweetie:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2008): ok as no - few guys have weighed in let me toftt. when guys say i'll call - it means we want 2 call within 1 week (unless we get busy & then it means we might forget). we also say we'll call when we have no intention of calling (but he txt which means he's interested). we rarely call straight away cox we're lazy but ALSO coz girls don't like needy guys. unless this guy lacks confidence (a possibility) u should not call him until 10 days (but hey it's only a game so u can make ur own rules). best
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reader, skygirl123 +, writes (2 December 2008):
skygirl123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi!
Could it be possible that he's waiting for me to get in touch? As he did send me a text after the date and maybe he thinks it's my turn. However I'm reluctant to get in touch just in case he doesn;t want me too, in which case it would suck quite frankly.
P.s. I think its really trajic that I'm making myself suffer like this. I really wish I didn;t care! I hate mind games!
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reader, skygirl123 +, writes (2 December 2008):
skygirl123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your responses! What you both said really makes sense! I figure I'll give it week like you say hotpinkgirl and if he doesnt get in touch, then I guess there's plent more fish in the sea! :0) I will let you know the outcome!
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reader, katatonik +, writes (2 December 2008):
Some guys use a rule (yes, apparently there is actually a rule) of waiting three days to call a girl after a date. I didn't believe this until my first date with the guy I am currently seeing. He called me the day after our first date and his first words to me were literally "I'm supposed to wait three days, but I didn't want to." My point is that it's quite possible this guy is on that kind of time schedule and is trying to play it cool by waiting a few days to call again.
I'd be encouraged by two things, though, if I were you. First, it sounds like he asked YOU on the date. So there was definitely interest on his end, and unless you really screwed something up when you two met (which doesn't sound likely, from your description) that interest is still there. Second, he texted you after the fact and the content of his message shows he's genuinely interested in your welfare and was paying attention to things you said (he remembered your niece's party). Definitely a good sign. Give him a few more days, at least, before you give up on him. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2008): It's quite soon. I think you'll hear from him. Don't get in touch but see if he contacts you. Let us know!
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reader, CaringMummyof2 +, writes (2 December 2008):
 maybe he's been really busy, i wouldn't give up on him right away its only been 3 days maybe he doesn't want to seem desperate and playing it cool, to be honest i would give him a little bit more time, if you had a good time aswell as him you might end up on a 2nd date with this guy, he might be thinking the same and that you aren't interested in him, have you tried sending him a txt just asking how is he an whats he been up to lately to see if he responds to msg, if he doesn't get in touch with you by the weekend and your not willing to make the 1st move by ringing or txting him i would look at moving on , best of luck hun x
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