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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I'm a 33 year from a big US city who is recently single...just ended a 4 year relationship..I'm a very social guy, funny, educated, in shape, ect...I'm just getting back into the dating scene and I absolutely hate it! I was recently set up with someone through a mutal friend..Me and the girl spoke and even exchanged pictures the week before we went out,,everything seemed great! we had such a great connection on the phone and e-mailing..we actually had very similar families, like all the same things, made each other laugh..i can honestly say that through all my relationships i hardly had a connection like this with anyone! even after being in a relationship for years! she also felt like this.we finally set a date to go out..when we met up she was smiling, we gave each other a hug, ect..we actually went to pool hall and there was an hour and a half wait for a table..i asked if she wanted to wait that long and she said she would like to have a drink and sit and talk..we talked, laughed, ect..she asked me a few times how long i thought the pool table would be , which seemed like she was in a rush..anyway, we played one game of pool and had alot of fun..i asked if she wanted to play another and she said she had to go..we were only on the date for about 2 hours..i walked her to her car and she said "thank you", ect..no reference to another date , ect..she texeted me half way home "thank you, i had alot of fun"..i asked her if i had another shot at beating her in pool and responded that she didn't think so..i responded that i got the hint, i had fun and good luck..she responded with a sad face...i got the vibe she wasn't into it and the feeling she was just being nice to not hurt my feelings, not too sure..why is this so hard! even on the date we got along great! not only that, i'm not a bad looking guy, so i don't see an attraction issue..anyway, just really confused..she already basically said she didn't want to go out agian..i'm just trying to make sense of how things seem so great and a women just changes the whole game in a split second.. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2009): Dear 33 year-old male,My advice is to never assume! You cannot read her mind! You may have got her wrong. Your best bet is to ring her again and ask her if she'd like to go on another date. If you don't ring her again you'll always be wondering, won't you? So go ahead, give her a ring, you have absolutely nothing to lose and everything to gain. GOOD LUCK!!Helen
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reader, susi  +, writes (8 February 2009):
not necessarily she could have been waiting for you to bring the subject of food up and suggest somewhere to go to eat, she might have thought you werent interested. Nah reckon if she wasnt interested she wouldnt texted you and when you said you got hint wouldnt sent frowny face think you upset her when you said that. Send her a text etc and see whether she wants to go out again, sure she'll say yes
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2009): hi susithanks for the responsei just had a gut feeling that she wasn't into it..i mean its saturday night and the date ended at 9pm..kinda early..besides that before the date, she somewhat said if things go well we should get something to eat after, ect..none of this was bought up during the date..i felt kinda dumb actually to tell you the truth..i really think she is just a really nice girl and didn't want to hurt my feelings and thats why she texted me
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reader, susi +, writes (8 February 2009):
Hi 2 hours is good going, im sure if she didnt like you that she would have left sooner. Dont think she would have texted you half way home either. Maybe she just meant that there was no way you would beat her at pool.Why dont you contact her and ask her if she'd like to go out for a coffee etc and see what she says. You dont know she may have had a reason to leave after 2 hours etc. Give it one last try and see what she says if she's not interested i'm sure she'll let you know.
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