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writes:Hi everyone I'm a male...16 yrs old And my problem is I'm going to go out with a girl on a date...It will be my first date...Yeah I Know I wait the old of 16 for I can go on date...anyway I really like this girl and I'm afraid To make this date the worst in her life...In fact I don't know what to wear or where I should take her or what we will talk about...It's hard to me : I'm Shy. .. Please Help me...I really need Help? So what are Ur advices...Thank U I love dearcupid.org
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (15 April 2013):
Dear OP,
First of all, she'll probably be nervous too, facing the same problems with clothes and everything. So don't worry, she won't eat you :) And after some minutes, most of the nervousness will be gone anyway.
Second, you can think of some questions to ask her. Girls like it if a guy is interested in them. Of course, tell something interesting about yourself as well, but if you have some questions in your head, this might help you to get out of an awkward silence.
So, what do you want to know about the girl? Her hobbies. If she has brothers and sisters and what she does on the weekends, her favourite place to eat and whether she has seen this movie, that you liked, as well.. if she will leave for summer holidays, and where..
Don't ask too many "yes or no" questions like "have you seen this movie?" "do you know this band?".. rather ask "what's the last time you went to cinema?".. "what's on your ipod right now?" this will make her talk more and give you more chance to think about responses :).
.. you can also start to talk about something that you both know and either like or dislike, for instance, if you have a terrible teacher that teaches the both of you, you can exchange funny stories about him.
Girls also like compliments, but not too obvious ones.
If you say "I like your dress" girls really like to hear that (you must have to mean it, of course, as well, never lie).
Never say "I like your boobs/legs" or whatever body parts come to mind. Maybe hair is the only thing you can make a compliment about when it comes to the body, but be cautious with any beauty compliments, it might come across as too direct.
You might want to make a compliment about a good characteristic of her, if you know her a little better. Mention an event that you remember positively about her, like "I thought it's really cool that you helped X out with his homework". In the end, you can say thank you for the great afternoon/evening and that you were having a really good time/ a lot of fun etc.
Whatever you do, don't worry so much. A date consists of two people, so you only have half the responsibility for it to become a success. I also think movies is a good idea and it's good to ask the girl to tell what kind of movie she likes.
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reader, jasykasy  +, writes (15 April 2013):
dont bring up any other girls unless its family into the conversation! rule unless she does.
thats about it other that just go with the flow you dont have to give her anything and obviously she wants to get to know you too she did say yes.. so be YOU!
talk about music
styles of clothes
favorited things: colors, food, artists, shows, books, actors.
talk about school... anything is of topic besides past relationships.
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reader, Yurimi +, writes (15 April 2013):
Aww I wish the guy I liked was as enthusiastic about dates as you are lol anyways movies and dinner are usually good since it gives you something to talk about after and it's easier to break the ice with some food. Depending on where you live you could her bowling or roller skating you know since you two are young have fun with it make each other laugh and try to have a good time. Have a good time!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2013): Find out what movie she would like see. Go online and look at an ad for teens at any popular department store and dress like one of the teens in the add. Don't spend a lot of money, just find the nicest things you have and put them together like the teens on the department store ads. Never go over-board to impress, just do the best you can with what you can afford.Ask an older brother or sister.Don't waste her time doing the shy guy thing. This is not the time to be silly and scared. You asked for a date, now stop acting like a little boy. Talk to her and get comfortable with her. Tell her some jokes and make her laugh, so you'll see how nice she is.Ask her about the things she likes. So the next time you take her out, you will know.
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