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I have been going out with my fiancée for about 4 years, we got happy
engaged and a year later we went and brought a house together which we moved
into and been living here for about 3 months now.
Recently she has been very unhappy things at her mum and dads house are not
to good as her mum and dad are a little ill, she lived in a place with some
animals and now she is not around them no more, but we are getting a cat
soon.
But I feel she is not happy here, as she seems very cold to me at time, She
has gone away on a business trip and when she was away she said she wanted
to sort her head out because of what's been going on at her home and moving
out as her family is close.
I have no female friends to talk to about this and find it hard to talk to
friends about it.
She and I have has a great relationship from being best friends to being
lovers but recently she has been very different. We use to hold each other
and kiss but about a week ago it all start just like that. She has been very
cold and it's always been me asking if I could kiss her or if I could hug
her and it never use to be like that.
Since she has gone away I feel that I have missed her more than anything and
worked out that I really do want to be with her for the rest of my life. But
when I speak to her she seems to be cold at times and I ask whys and she
says that she will be fine she just needs to sort out all these things that
are going on inside her head and then she can think about us. But its begin
to effect me and I'm starting to think that she is not in love with me no
more and I cannot work it out, she says that she loves living with me, but
with her being cold really feels like she is pushing me away and the last
thing I want is to leave.
I really need some help as I am so confused.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2007): I know this is an old question but something made me scroll down to read it. Your girl is having trouble dealing with the change in her living situation and may even be feeling a little guilty about leaving her parents behind. If her parents are ill then she may have a gut feeling something tragic will happen to one of them. I am speaking from experience. Last year I had that gut feeling myself but could never quite put my finger on exactly what was wrong. Sadly, my father died very tragically and I personally witnessed the whole thing. My advice is, stand by this girl, encourage her to spend more time with her family and previous surroundings. Take the initiative to drive her there yourself if possible. Once things start to fall back into place she will realize you had her best interests at heart and she will probably be yours for life. Even if you never ever read this response it made me feel better to share my experiences and gain another step towards my personal healing process. Good luck and thank you also for listening.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2005):
She seemed to missed her past life she had left behind for the relationship.
Perhaps a revisit with her familiar surroundings and at her parents place
would cheer her up. Ultimately she seemed to need some air and space to
breathe so you cant rush these things but gradually step up and let her know
if anything you are beside her to share the burden and the pain she might
have. Let her use you as a cain for support.
I hope my advice proved to be useful and may you find the guiding light to
the answer you seek~
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