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writes:Hello Well how do I start thisBasically long story short me and my fiancé got into a fight for the first time a big fight. Before we would just yell or cry it out and make up but it came so bad that bystanders thought it was me beating her but it was her and some how she got a nose bleed. Now because I'm a man and she is a small girl the campus police thought I was the aggressor. I went to jail and I got out on bail during my time in jail I thought hard about what had happened and why. I absolutely love my fiancé and would go through hell and back for her. And now it hurts me terribly that I have an Emergency Protective Order(EPO) and I know she doesn't want that it's only 60 days and I just want to know how she is doing and I want to let her know I'm truly sorry and that no matter what I love her. I got text that were the day I got arressted that she is sorry she really is. And now I heard from an old friend of mine saying that she misses me and loves me and I told him just let her know I ok I'm safe and I'm doing everything I can to prove to the judge to get the EPO lifted andy friend had already explained I her that she needs to do things as well. We've through a break up where I had absolutely no contact for about 3 months so I know we can pull through but the pain is so much and my girl wears a rough tough facade but I know in her heart she hurts and I just want to know that she is ok. I'm trying to find a way to get information about her and she gets info about me. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2012): you were wrongfully sent to jail.. first wipe out your name of that mess.. I mean come on...
Her parents prolly think you did beat her.. the law is not letting you live like a free man.. and its all because she couldn't give her word????
what kind of girlfriend does that
Surely she could go to the campus head- the principal and say what actually happened.
If you really want to fix things... first try to make sure your name is not tarnished.. then everything else will be clear to you..
you r focusing on the wrong thing..
everybody prolly thinks you did actually hit her right now...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2012): Well there was an investigation done and what not and she some how was let go and I went to jail. I really do love her but I wasn't able to plead anything because the campus police pressed charges not her. From a friend I found out that she does love me and misses me and I told my friend to let her know that there is a lot of stuff to we can both do to get this settled for my next court hearing in about 4 or 5 mounths. But the only thing I can think of is why she didn't go to my first court was because her mom didn't let her. I heard different stories that she was at the movies and she never called But I looked through my moms phone records save on her phone and it said she was at the hospital and she was calling to see if I was ok and if I wanted her to see me. Then once I got out I turned on the Internet on my iPod and I got old texts saying she's truthfully sorry it turned our like this and that she wants to get any type of restraining order lifted. And I tried calling her from my cell but only collect calls and she couldn't answer
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 March 2012):
 Something makes no sense to me like Flynn 24
When the cops came and they asked your gf how she got her nosebleed all she had to say was it happened naturally that she was prone to them (if she is) IF they didn't see her get hit then it's only he said she said... and all she hay to do was say you didn't hit her. IF she didn't say anything or she said you hit her then either you are not telling us the whole story or she lied so you WOULD go to jail and why would you want to be with a woman like that anyway?
And YOU alone can't get an OP lifted... SHE has to go to court and plead your case as well...
if you have mutual friends it's easy to pass info back and forth... a cheap burn phone will allow you to talk and text without them tracing the records....
and since the OP is that you can't go near her as long as she's not wanting it either, she wont' report you and you won't get caught....
I would like you to tell us the truth to the best of your ability so we can properly advise you.
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reader, Orbiter  +, writes (4 March 2012):
Why wouldn't your girlfriend just go to the judge and explained that she coincidentally got a nose bleed just as you were arguing? Why didn't she explain it right away to the police?
Something about your story doesn't add up. Requesting a way to get info on your gf? You sound suspicious to say the least.
My advice to you is:
1) If you did actually hit her - break up. If you love her so much surely you don't want her to be with a violent and aggressive person like you.
2) If you didn't hit her and for some strange reason she was happy to let you rot in jail - break up. Doesn't sound like love to me. Sounds a bit crazy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2012): How is this possible? Was an investigation ever performed? They just assumed that a nosebleed was caused by physical abuse on YOUR part?
Were you even interviewed? Plead in any way? Because this is grounds for a lawsuit if they botched the case.
Flynn 24
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