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writes:Well, this isn't a dating question but I really needed to ask anyway. I grew up with my two best friends from kindergarden to high school then through uni we were inseperable. We had a very intense and amazing friendship. Then disaster struck. Four years ago there was a huge fight. At the time one of our friends had been acting badly (nothing hugely major but still serious enough) and the two of us stopped talking to her. I thought it was serious at the time but never thought it was serious enough for us never to talk again. I have long since made up with her but my other friend absolutely refuses to talk to her or even aknowledge her and ignores her if they happen to go to the same party. What she did was not one of those deal breakers (she was just paying more attention to her boyfriend than us at the time and criticized the other girl's relationship - rightly so, the guy was a loser) This is really really hard on me as I am caught in the middle. I have moved away so every time I go back it is like a tug of war for adults. I can't stand it any more. I think if something good or bad happens to me I want both my best friends with me but they have not exchanged one word in four years. It is like established now. What can I do? I have to be smooth because the one we had an argument with is now sick and tired of trying to approach the other girl in the past and now really hurt and the other one really scared from a destructive father that talking to her is not very easy (she almost cut her own sister out on a similar situation). I am planning a visit back with my boyfriend and this will be really weird.Any ideas are appreciated.
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reader, Emilee-Jess +, writes (10 July 2009):
 I think all 3 of you should sit down and talk about it. Are they both still with their boyfriends? If they are, then get them there as well. That way, the friend who called the other friend's boyfriend a loser. Can actually explain why. If they refuse to sit down together. Then try and trick them into talking. Like, a fake party, a pamper night, a meet up at a restraunt, etc. It is sure to work. I may only be 13, but i know about these things. Girls can be bitches and everyone knows that. Even us! If it doens't work, then i am trully sorry (: Hope it helps (;
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