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writes:I am 16, 17 in September and I have finished school and I am halfway through my GCSE's. I had a few issues with one of my ex-teachers; as I am not coming back to my old school next year, she is now an ex-teacher. The story is long, but basically she was found out of improper conduct and was not allowed to speak to me any longer. She kept this up until she started to briefly talk to me, however, only about school related topics, compared to what we used to discuss. It was hard moving on from this, because I loved her so deeply and I never wanted to be parted from her, she made me so happy, and made sure that I was always okay, whether it be through her words, or her presence, feeling safe and secure with. But she blamed everything onto me, even though she was the 'responsbile adult' and made me feel so small, I was sucidial for 3 months, I couldnt cope without her, I needed her just to breathe. But when I returned back to school in September, I tried to think that she wasn't there and I got so much better, I didnt look into her room as much, I stopped talking about her, I tried so hard to convice myself and actually realise that I didnt need her and I didnt want to need her. But in reality I have, deep down, never successfully moved on from this because in my heart somewhere I want her so badly. Yes I know it is wrong but I cant help it, my head knows that it shouldnt be this way - I cannot help it. I have tried to move on 100% but I cant, some people may see this as giving up on something that I have dreamed of for so long, 7 months of trying to move on, but I just dont know what to do.I'm not returning back to that school in September, I was going to let time heal this addiction that I have on her. When I am 18 should I pursue this further, Please help me, I'm totally stuck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): I know exactly how you're feeling, I'm in a similar position.I've been in love with my female teacher for almost a year now. I have her with me every day and still I feel suicidal a lot. I know how difficult it is to have to pass each day when it's all you really can focus on, but just try to distance yourself from it. Find something you enjoy doing, remind yourself why it would never work and that it was wrong for her to give you the idea that something could happen.My teacher has no idea, but we are so close. I'm terrified of telling her incase she is taken away from me; then there really would be no point in being here. I guess I'm lucky i have her with me. I really empathize with you, keep holding on. Time's the best healer ..All the best.xxxPs, listen to Kelly Clarkson - Addicted.Got me through a lot.xx
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reader, stepie82  +, writes (25 May 2009):
this is a tough thing to go through i would tell you to explore the relationship once your 18 but she put the blame on you if she really cared for you she would have taken responsibility for her actions relationships hurt and this ones definately hurting you. be careful and trust your heart
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