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writes:I have a big problem. It's been two years know since I've been seeing my professor. In the beginning I felt extremely strange being that I never had inclinations towards the same sex. She started by asking me to stay after class to help. I found it to be more like a girl friendship. She was so nice to me, we would go out shopping together, I would ride in her car, I felt great. Until she invited me to her house to watch a movie. I accepted and bought a victoria secret magazine because there was a pefume I wanted to find at the store. So, as we sat on her couch we started flipping through the magazine and she commented how well I would look in these undies. I took it as a compliment, you know, us girls we tend to compare and make suggestions. But things started to change when she got closer to me. I could almost feel her breathe on me. She is a young, attractive woman. All the guys are so attracted to her. Well, to make a long story short, she kissed me. She kissed me like a guy would. I never in my life felt a woman's kiss. I don't consider myself a lesbian but I trully enjoyed her kiss. It made me feel. Is this normal? She is calling me because i haven't seen her since. I can't sleep at night thinking of her, thinking if this is a joke? or a prank? Should I answer her phone calls? What if this goes farther? I am so confused, all of a sudden I start missing her company. I want to pick up that phone so bad. She sent me a text asking for me to forgive her, that she didn't meant it but it just happened. That she feels love for me!? How do I analyze myself now that I am feeling something I never felt? When I've thought of myself as a heterosexual? I started thinking way ahead and imagine me having sex with her? How's that? I mean what do lesbians do? Just fondle each other? Can anybody tell me how to deal with this! How can I miss her like I do now? I am afraid what my family might think of me. Most of them are homophobic. This is something I would never tell them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhow could this be a prank? anyway we are dating and it's official. I am happy and so is she, and our quote is "who cares!!" :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): I don't think this is a joke or a prank. In fact, your professor probably feels very embarrassed at the moment and, if she does love you, she is also really anxious about your reaction.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): i appreciate the thought that you summed up what a dyke was. i already knew what a dyke was. if you read my posting i in no shape form or fashion categorized you as being a dyke. i think my exact words were you were not a dyke. so i'm sorry if you felt that i would put you in a category with one of those kind of people. good luck on handling this situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe word Dyke is inappropriately used in this matter. Here is the definition in case anon and finn haven't done their home work: Originally,used as a derogatory label for a masculine or butch woman. I am not or reflect a masculine woman, so there for I disagree with any one here categorizing me as a dyke. On the contrary my physique is very feminine.
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reader, Confused_123  +, writes (25 May 2009):
Not a dyke but if your curious then I don't see the problem, maybe give it a go? If the kiss felt so good then you might just be Bi? The fatcyou miss her so much indicates you really like her and maybe as more than a friend? Only you know so just do what feels best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2009): i totally agree with the original poster i don't think she is a dyke. she is a college student that has a female professor who is attracted to her. i think that you are missing her mainly because you miss the friendship relationship you two had not mainly the kiss thing. am i right. i am completely straight and when i was younger i had a friend that was lesbian and she would make comments to me and touch on me if i went somewhere with her. I wasn't a dyke because i actually wondered what it was like for two women to be intimate with eachother. i never had sex with her but we talked alot and curious was i so i let her know i was completely straight and that i did want to be her friend and hang out but not in a g/f way. she was cool with that after out long conversation. maybe you should talk with her and just play it by what you feel and you determine what you need to do. you are no dyke trust me. good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questiona dyke? do you know what's the meaning of a dyke? why won't you go back to your dictionaries and find out before writing stu*pid things on a post!
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reader, The Gentle Man +, writes (25 May 2009):
 This sounds like you might just be curious. Just do what feels natural and comfortable, nothing else matters.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): Ok, so you found out you're a dyke - what's to deal with? Go with it cos your instincts tell you to. No-one will know unless you tell 'em.
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