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writes:I have what people call "female pre-mature ejaculation". When I was a teen, I think I masturbated maybe three times during those six years, so I've never really had a full-on release by myself. I just didn't like the feeling of my fingers being inside me.Anyway, now it's starting to bode UNwell for my boyfriend and I. I cum too quickly and give out after that and he was a chronic masturbator as a teen, so he doesn't cum quickly at all. Our libidos are also wicked opposites: I always want sex whereas he comments sometimes that we have too much sex.I'm just wondering how we can find that happy medium and actually have sex and cum at the same time?
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reader, relentlessheart +, writes (15 January 2011):
Watch some porn, get nice and turned on. Buy a vibrator, get it a little wet with spit or lube and roll it around your clit in circular motions until you cum. IF you cum clitorally you'll more than likely be more satisfied. Try getting urself off whenever you have spare time. As ur man how much he'd like to have sex and take care of yourself the rest of the time. I have a high libido, and my fiance has little to none. We have sex 1-2 times a week usually and I like it at least once a day. I masturbate a lot, I'm not gonna lie. lol
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reader, mark89 +, writes (15 January 2011):
Try foreplay or give your boyfriend a blowjod or handjob if you think his not satisfy enough, but dont worry one time is not bad besides most male ejaculate one maybe two times during sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2011): You actually masterbate by massaging your clit. I don't think using your finger will make you have an orgasm. Are you sure you are having orgasms with your boyfriend? You should try purchasing a small vibrator like the bullet to masterbate with. You place it on the clitoris. I don't have anymore advice sorry, this is the first time I heard of a woman having an orgasm quickly lol.. Hope things work out :)
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (15 January 2011):
 Since you can have as many orgasms as you like; what is the problem? It's not a race, it's not a tally and it's not a competition. I'd just relax and enjoy la difference. Sometimes, life IS fair.
BTW; no couple comes at the same time or as often as each other - that is just a female myth perpetuated by ourselves in order to make ourselves even more giving, needy and miserable than we already are.
If you really want to perpetuate a "mind meld" with your partner and constantly orgasm at the same time; you need to become a trekkie.
And if someone writes in that they orgasm every time, all the time with their partner because they are truly in love, then just shoot me now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2011): well you can have more than one orgasm! Try masturbating for once! I don't normally stick my finger inside, but i actually play with my clitious and get off! (theres also tons of toys!) This is something you need to talk to your boyfriend about! some guys think this is painful, but my boyfriend likes it! But, how about giving him oral...or doing some kind of foreplay where he can go ahead and get off (or be extremely close of getting off)and then have sex, because he could be as close as you, or...he would have already finished before, and now its just your turn!
About you wanting sex all the time! Don't worry! its normal! Well, i suppose it is, b/c im the same way! I want sex ALL the time, but my boyfriend often gets tired, or..wants to do something else every once in a while! But we can't change that, or pressure them! You just have to accept that they aren't crazy for sex like we are!
Try masturbating, it could help from being horny all the time, and will help from cumming so fast!
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