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writes:I'm a 19 year old virgin... take my word for it, its not because lack of offers.... I'm moving to Scotland and going to live on my own... I feel like an "adult" but I still haven't had sex, oral sex, I haven't been fingered or nothing! Every time the topic comes up I feel like a little girl again. I really want to do 'it' but with someone I truly love... everyone just laughs in my face :( So men... when you find out that a pretty 19 yr old is a virgin are you automatically turned off, what goes through your mind?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Graham! Its men like you that give me hope =)
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reader, apathyslastkiss  +, writes (2 December 2008):
 Let me begin first by congratulating you for staying a virgin! You might have no idea just how really special that is! God bless you (He has already)for your choice! In a world that idolizes sex, you are a beacon of hope to all young people who feel that they have to be completed by having sex. There's nothing wrong with you for still being a virgin. That is actually something very RIGHT with you!! As a young male, I am certainly tempted to have sex, and the opportunities are there, just as you said you have opportunities. But, I have an immense amount of respect for you because of this decision. Keep waiting until you know it's right. There is no rush. Sex is not the end all be all of existence, and you don't have to have it to complete yourself. Obviously, as you've expressed, you want to have it, and that's completely natural and fine! Just make sure it's with the man you want to commit yourself to in love - THEN, sex will be the most rewarding! Do not pay attention to the people who laugh at you - they obviously have a far lesser and immature attitude towards sex than yourself.
Thank you so much for your question! God bless you, and keep you safe in Scotland.
Graham
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2008): Being an adult is more then body, it's mind. Plenty on "adult male and females "make children" but that doesn't make them real men or women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2008): If a guy is turned off by the fact that you are a virgin, I would say he wasn't that into you anyway. I completely respect that you are keeping it for someone special and they will feel special if/when that happens. I would even let them know that you saved yourself for them. That would be true love if you ask me. You can only give it once, right?Personally, I'm a 22 year old male virgin. I'm not 'saving myself' for religious reasons or even love, but at least for someone special. I could have had sex with my last GF and I would have been completely happy giving her my virginity, but there were other issues at play (long story). Anyway, not a turn off...for me anyway. Way to have some moral fortitude in an otherwise pretty immoral world! Don't dwell on it or let others give you a hard time either; it's your virginity not theirs.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (2 December 2008):
 ----Old fashioned Dad type I'm proud of ya lass. Every thing Dr. Ryan said is true. And, may I add that a good sexual relationship is all about trust. Too many people rush into it. And social status is no reason to have a sexual relation. FA
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you dc.ryan! Being a virgin at 19 in college isn't easy at all... I'm glad some men don't think it's a childish characteristic. It is something very precious to me, and one day I'll give it to a lucky man! and like you said "experience the joy"
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reader, dc.ryan  +, writes (1 December 2008):
 I think the opinion you personally hold about your virginity is very good - you want to loose your virginity with someone special; perfect!
Sex is very personal, and to a lot of people their virginity is precious.. how you want to loose your virginity is up to you, there is no standards to follow - it is when you feel ready and don't like friends pressure you into something you'll probably regret.
To answer the real question, I don't think it is a turn off at all - and I expect a lot of men feel this way; good sex comes with practice and we all have to start somewhere. You've got plenty of time to find someone who is right for you, and then - it is your decision whether you wish to loose your virginity; and experience the joy which is sex :)
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