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writes: So, I recently met this guy and I feel as if I fell head over heals for him. Thing is, he just got out of a marriage a little over 3 months ago and is/was starting to get strong feelings for me as well. Now, he just wants to have time apart because we are getting too attached. Keep in mind, we are only "seeing" one another. He is leaving for 6 months in Jan. to go to Vegas and a week after he returns from there, he is going to Iraq for a year. Please tell what to do. I am hurting. Reply to this Question
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reader, skywalker +, writes (31 October 2006):
give him some time.C if u really love each other,u both will have feelings for each other even after a year.In the meantime dnt stop ur life but keep in touch through phone,email etc. and hope for the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2006): this man needs space, this man needs to explore, this man needs to find himself, this man is confused, this man is scared .... if he wants time apart so be it ... don't ever force him to like or fall in love with you...he's leaving the country and don't get your hopes to high that he'll come back wanting you.. i'd say let go and enjoy your life .. tell him how much you care for him and that you respect his decision if he wants to be apart from you. it's hurting but you can't force or expect him to like you back as much as you like him. good luck ...
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2006): Timing often has a lot to do with whether a relationship works or not.
Unfortunately, you only recently met him, and he will be gone in two months to Vegas and Iraq for 18 months in all. Also, he has only been out of his marriage for three months - hardly any time at all to sort himself out from his split with his ex-wife.
He wants to have time apart. There is nothing you can do except to agree. I know it hurts and you don't like it, but if you care about him you have to honor his wishes.
MAYBE if you stay in touch by email or letter, when he comes back he will want to get back together with you. But, I have to say now that is rather a long shot, and not something you should pin much hope on.
Timing really is not good for you right now, sorry to say....
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