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writes:Big problem, please help!I moved in with a guy because I started a grad program at a University in Colorado. I met him at open house and we got along great, we were both just out of relationships and went to lunch and talked for 3 hours after. Decided that we would be good roommates and since we're both here a while, an extended lease wasn't a problem. For the next month, we emailed back and forth every day, talking a few times each week on the phone too. I started to realize that I was liking him and thought maybe I should break the lease before I moved in. But, I didn't.... we had three weeks to hang out before school started so we did... every day! We ended up kissing and saying we should back off. The only problem is, we're so great together. Our parents saw it, our friends saw it, we see it. We work so well together and we've both been in different long term relationships before so we're not just young and dumb. Now, here's my problem. It's been less than four months and we're sleeping in the same room (your place or mine tonight?) and our relationship is great, but I feel like we moved way too fast. He is by no means a player and I've always taken my time with relationships as well. Now I wish we didn't live together because I feel like our relationship might suffer for some reason. We've talked about marriage and kids and such... I think it's too late to take it slow now, do you think we'll last? I used to think that the people who got married after knowing each other for a few months were insane, but now I can see myself doing it with him!?! I feel like I've gone crazy!
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reader, 11muds11  +, writes (9 December 2010):
I have a simple answer to this one. It's time to move out. Find someone who would like to swap with you and sweeten the deal. Tell your boyfriend that you're doing this because you like him and want to still be boyfriend and girlfriend. You can sleep with him as much as you want, just now you'll have the proper space. Just my thoughts anyways. Good luck!
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