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female
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30-35,
*avenousrhino
writes:So we graduated from school yesterday (don't live in the US) and I lack in keeping in touch with people after I'm not forced to see them (like at school). But there's that boy that sat next to me this year and I really like him. I could trust him, tell him my stories and he would listen. He used to tell me everything on his mind and how his life is going and from what he told me, I think we're one of a kind.So basically I just don't want him to disappear. My only best friend just moved away and I think I need this boy.But since I have some kind of Social Anxiety it's almost impossible for me to ask him to hang out.Though, he kind of mentioned that he wants to see me again. Like saying "maybe we'll meet some time" or the day before graduation he asked me what I'd do afterwards and if I want to come with him, but he forgot about that. :cI wouldn't say I love him, but I like him quite much. Too much to let him go.It's not that I think he strongly dislikes me, but he's sending positive and negative signals.Let's say the one day he's being really, really nice, telling me I'm special in a very good way and that he haven't met somebody like me, and the next day he just ignores me. But yet, during school he was always nicer to me than to any other girl. And I'm afraid that his positive feelings for me will disappear if he won't get to see me soon. And I'm also unbearably afraid that he'll find a girlfriend. I never felt that much for another person.Is there anything I can do to tell him I really like him and I really do wanna see him WITHOUT embarrassing myself. Like I said, I have some sort of Social Anxiety and I will think 1928 times before telling him. Or in his case writing. We text occasionally online.I'm sorry for this too long text, but I'm really desperate and helpless.Btw. I turned 16 in March, he'll be 17 this October.
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reader, Heartmender  +, writes (18 July 2010):
 Maybe if you exchanged phone numbers (if you haven't already) it may help? Building up a relationship via text or email isn't unheard of, and at least it gives you a chance to look at what you want to say, so you find the anxiety of speaking to him or asking him to hang out will be less. Then, once a relationship is built and you get used to hanging out together something nice could well happen... ;) He sounds nice and I hope you find happpiness, even if things don't work out with this guy, then with the rest of your life and all the friends and opportunities you'll have there! Good luck. :o)
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