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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes: hi everybody, heres my problem- i'm 26 and am in my last year of a degree, and saw this really gorgeous guy in the canteen of my uni about 9 weeks ago. i was pretty impressed and after that i think i saw him randomly when i was getting off the train in town too. Imagine my surprise when i went to the uni careers centre and asked for an appointment and HE walked out! i couldnt believe it! i went so red!!I've spent about 4 hours in his presence and i really like him, hes lovely and handsome and polite and attentive and hes helped me a lot. But i'm not sure if he fancies me or likes me. He seems a nice person, and when somebody is a caring person you wonder if youre reading too much into their attentiveness. We've got a bit in common and i found his myspace and discovered then we've got a LOT in common, same music tastes etc. He's so much my type that its unreal, and i cant stop stressing about this, because i don't know what to do or how to act. he's about 7 years or so older than me but ive always dated older guys so it's all good!This week is the end of term and i saw him for the last time and i feel a bit sad, because out of going to see him in his place of work, ive not much chance of seeing him again, and i cant pretend i've got a reason to see him again- i've already had five appointments (he booked 4, not me!) the reception staff are giving me funny looks! which means one thing- ive got to tell him i like him. but i really dont know what on earth to say, and if he'll be freaked out by it and think its inappropriate and feel that all that time when he was going out of his way to help me, i was just in there checking him out! i don't even know if hes single but suspect he is (no status on myspace, but no evidence of a S/O on his page or anybody in his top friends) so i'm worried i'm going to make a fool of myself there. He seems to at least like me- he goes out of his way to help me, and yesterday made himself 15 minutes late for a meeting because he was trying to help me finish some work. i saw him yesterday across the campus and he smiled at me- and yesterday he did something weird in the canteen- i was sat alone and noticed him come in he stood in the queue then basically walked in this weird detour to the point where he walked right behind me and for a second i thought he was going to sit with me, (but i was too nervous to look up! argh! and i didnt want to make it look like i was staring) and when i looked up hed gone. he could have spoken to me i realised later, but i'd got my music on full blast in earphones! d'oh! he sent me a document yesterday on email and i replied saying great, and many thanks for all your input and help. but he didnt reply today, and it made me question why he didnt! argh!But this what i'm like, i've never asked ANYBODY out before or told them how i feel, and dont know where to start- its harder because its a member of staff. and i know that if he asked me or did anything inappropriate and i freaked out i could get him in trouble at work. hes very mild mannered and i dont want to get all heavy on him, but i dont know what on earth to say, but i like him very much and i have to do something- but what?
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reader, Mistify  +, writes (14 December 2007):
 Hey
What a predicament you are in.
Well - i'm very happy that you've decided that you want to tell him. Many people just sit and ponder on their feelings until it drives them insane.
My suggestion:
You have access to his email. Why not email him, and ask him if he'd like to join you for coffee. This way - he won't feel PUT ON THE SPOT - and if he's not interested - he could let you down easy. It will also be easier for you, than to do it face to face.
Take it from there, and see how things go.
If he agrees, then go for coffee, and see how things develop, and if he says no, then accept it, and move on.
Good luck - let me know how it goes...
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