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writes:I feel kind strange when ever this girl Taby comes and hangs with my friends and my bf, because she has slept with every guy in the room even my bf once. I just wonder if I can ever be okay in the same room or if I have a legit reason it feel uncomfortable around her and not really like her. I try to avoid her. I would guess that's all I can do right? Reply to this Question
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reader, Lovemeright11 +, writes (16 September 2012):
Lovemeright11 is verified as being by the original poster of the question She is a hoe that's all and I don't want her around me.
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reader, Lovemeright11 +, writes (16 September 2012):
Lovemeright11 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo no no no no no no
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (14 September 2012):
 what makes you feel strange
do you think your boyfriend wants her more than you?
do you think she wants your boyfriend?
are you jealous of her?
do you pity her?
what's the issue?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2012): You can't help how you feel, and you can avoid her if you'd like. If anyone asks, just be honest. I think if they were in your situation, they would feel the same way. Not too many people are keen on the idea of their significant other hanging around someone who they once slept with. Although, I will say this. If it was only casual sex, and they never dated, then there was probably no emotion involved. Your boyfriend probably just thinks "been there, done that" when he looks at her. He may just hang around her because she and him have mutual friends. You are the girl he wants to be with, so I wouldn't worry. But don't continue making yourself uncomfortable. If you really dislike her, don't be around her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2012): You feel what YOU feel. No one can tell you what to feel. I would feel not comfortable around your boyfriend, or these guys who all slept with her, and then gossiped about it, including your boyfriend, that's how you know it, right, because they had to tell everyone?She is one of us, girls, sleeping with " all the guys in a room" can be indication of many things , like sexual child abuse, some insecurities and low self esteem, her way of looking for love the wrong way, or may be she is just a free spirit who does what she wants and enjoys it. If you are such a good girl why don't YOU stop hanging out around her and stop going to places she goes. I don't see what else YOU can do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2012): She's quite a keen casual sex go'er who isn't that fussy about who she offers herself to. She's also slept with your boyfriend yet she continues to linger around like a bad smell. Yes, I think you have legitimate reasons for disliking this harlot, and you're bound to feel uncomfortable around her if you don't like her. People with no respect get no respect.
I can't really suggest a solution to this problem that isn't selfish. You're all mutual friends, its not fair to remove your boyfriend from these friends because you don't like this girl, and I'm guessing the others don't really have the same issue with this girl as you do, so you can't just kick her out of the group. :/
Maybe try to grin and bear it, get along with her for the sake of the group, and when she or you are away from the group you don't have to worry or even think about her.
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